You're both making eyes at each other; they're hot, you're hot, but when they come over to talk to you, you've got nothing to say because all you can think of is how you want to rip their clothes off.
Welcome to sexual tension.
Sexual tension is one of those things that is equally as exciting as it is exhausting. It's why I have a new crush every 5 minutes and why my past relationships failed.
But we will get to that soon.
The excitement of sexual tension is unmatched. It's the catalyst for who will appear in your before-bed daydreams and leads to absolutely fire group chat conversations.
Enter the "hey babe, guess who I ran into" followed by “he’s not hot, but there is something really hot about him" texts.
It's something that I have been experiencing a lot of lately.
I don't have time to get into it, but as they say, queens, there is a reason a season and a lifetime for everything and the season right now is giving massive sexual tension vibes.
And since I'm a girl of theory - and astrology, I tried to find some Mercury Retrograde type answers for why I'm feeling the sexy vibes with a few lads lately and accidentally ran into some non-astrological but very scientific research that explains what it actually is and why we experience it.
Turns out it's a pretty simple explanation.
Sexual tension is your brain's way of telling you that the person making you imagine the dirtiest of dirty situations is there for a good time and not a long time.
The problem is, sometimes the good time is so good, they end up there for a long time.
And that isn't really the vibe, so here is everything you need to know about sexual tension, so you don't mistake it for a crush and end up dating them purely because of the excellent bumpy cuddles.
The way you feel:
You know it's sexual tension when the minute you're close to the person, all you can feel is sweaty palms, butterflies in your stomach, a rapid heart rate and slightly shaky hands.
Yes, it is similar to drinking three coffees, but it's different, trust me.
The way you act:
Now this one? This will get you into trouble, especially if there are other people around.
Prepare to act like a lusty teen because when you feel sexy vibes with someone, you'll probably have an overwhelming urge to giggle and smile whenever they speak.
You're def going to blush when you hold eye contact for more than two seconds, not to mention the desire to touch their arm while you're talking to them.
And, of course, some dangerous flirting.
The way you talk to each other:
Sexual tension isn't always reciprocated, but when it is, you'll know by the way you two chat.
I saw a tweet that said, "Sexual tension is just when two hot people have nothing to say to each other", and queens, I'm not going to lie. It was like the world suddenly made sense.
When you're talking to someone you know would be an absolute top-tier root, it's difficult to come up with things to say because the blood is not rushing to your brain.
It's rushing between your thighs.
So the chat might be a bit awks, but there is also a mad amount of flirting, maybe some teasing, some NSFW comments and of course, the unspoken desires that can only be said with the eyes.
Cue the 'I'm undressing you with my eyes’ moment.
So now what?
Basically, you've got two choices, and it mostly comes down to risk versus reward.
E.g. consider your relationship status, their relationship status, your connection, and the situation.
Sexual tension is a natural bodily reaction and doesn’t have to be acted on. It can just be a fantasy, and sometimes it's best left that way.
But if you want to pursue it and get the vibe, they do as well; go with the flow, enjoy the flirty banter and remember, sexual tension is (mostly) for a good time and not a long time.
Happy vibes always,
Podcast Transcript
You're listening to the Girls Get Off podcast, an R18 podcast in all things female pleasure. Think girl talk, but real girl talk, where we chat all things masty, self loving, sex, orgasms and more. Nothing is off limits, which means you get all the secrets even our guests BFFs don't know. We're on a mission to make talking about getting off as fun as actually doing it. Ready to join the Mastination? Let's get into it.
Hello queens and welcome to the Mastination. Welcome back to the Girls Get Off Podcast, I'm Lillie from Lights Off with Lillie and today we're talking about that little thing called sexual tension. I know I'm getting excited just thinking about it though. On the list of rendezvous I love, this is pretty high up there. It's fun, it's flirty, it's a little bit dangerous and also I'm a huge attention whore and I love validation from other people so when I know someone's attracted to me it just gives me all kinds of feels. Anyway, moving on, I've got a great column for you today, so let's get right into it. Sexual tension 101. You're both making eyes at each other. They're hot, you're hot, but when they come over to talk to you, you've got nothing to say because all you can think of is how you just want to rip their clothes off. Welcome to sexual tension. Sexual tension is one of those things that's equally as exciting as it is exhausting. It's why I have a new crush every 5 minutes, and also why my past relationships have failed. But we'll get to that soon. The excitement of sexual tension is unmatched. It's like the catalyst for who's going to appear in your before bed daydreams, you know the ones babe, and leads to absolutely fire group chat conversations. Cue the, Hey babe, guess who I just ran into. Like, he's not hot, but there's just like something really hot about him. Text messages. It's something that I've been experiencing a lot of lately. I don't have time to get into it, but as they say queens, there is a reason, a season, and a lifetime for everything. And the season right now is giving huge sexual tension vibes.
I think it's because it's almost summer, you know, like, coughing season's almost over, everybody's feeling a bit hot. A bit hot and bothered. Anyway, since I'm a girl of theory, and I'll admit astrology, I tried to find some mercury retrograde type answers for why I'm feeling the sexy vibes of the few lads lately, and I accidentally ran into some non-astrological but very scientific answers that explain what sexual tension is and why we experience it. Turns out, it's a pretty simple explanation. Sexual tension is your brain's way of telling you that the person making you imagine the dirtiest of dirty situations is there for a good time and not a long time. The problem is, sometimes the good time is so goddamn good, they end up there for a long time. And babe, this is not the vibe. So here's everything you need to know about sexual tension so you don't mistake it for a crush and actually end up dating them purely because of the excellent bumper cuddles. The way you feel. You know it's sexual tension, when the minute you're close to the person all you can feel is sweaty palms, butterflies in your stomach, a rapid heart rate and slightly shaky hands. It's very similar to drinking like 3 coffees in a row but trust me it's different and you'll know it. You'll know it's different. But it is very similar to drinking coffee. The way you act. Now this one, this is going to get you into trouble. Especially if there's other people around. I mean like, prepare to act like a lusty teenager because when you feel the sexy vibes with someone, oh my god, you're probably going to have this annoying, overwhelming urge to giggle and smile whenever they speak. Like you're literally probably going to smile so much that like, sometimes when I do it I feel like my mouth gets sort of like cramp in my mouth. Is that a thing? I think, well, that's kind of what it feels like anyway. You're definitely gonna blush when you hold eye contact with them for more than two seconds. Like that is so, that is such an intimate thing, right? And not to mention you are probably gonna wanna touch their arm when you're talking to them and it's like that lingering like, oh hey babe, how are you? And you just kind of like rub their arm. Anyway, anyway, it's dangerous. It's dangerous territory, especially if there's people watching you because they'll know. Like this happened to me the other day. There was like... I was chatting away to this guy and now there's a rumour going around about us.
So be careful, stay aware, only do it in good situations. Moving on, sexual tension isn't always reciprocated but when it is, you'll know by the way that you too chat. I saw a tweet that said, sexual tension is just when two hot people have nothing to say to each other. God, I'm not gonna lie, it's like the world suddenly made sense. Like it was a whole, what's that word, epiphany. It was like a whole epiphany for me. Is that the word? I don't know, it made me realize shit. I was like Kylie Jenner in 2020, I was like this is a year of realizing stuff. When you're talking to someone you know who've been absolutely top tier root, it's really difficult to come up with things to say because the blood is, it's not rushing to your brain. It's rushing between your thighs, if you know what I mean. So the chat might be a little bit orkies. Like there might be, there's also a mad amount of flirting. Flirting, teasing, some not safe for work comments. Do you know, I just learned what NSFW means. I had to Google it. Like I don't think I'm a geriatric Gen Z and it had never been more evident than when I had to Google what NSFW meant. So if anybody else has done that, you're not alone, sweetie. And then of course, there are unspoken desires that can only be said with the eyes. Cue the hungry, urgent, I'm undressing you with my eyes moment. It's hot. It's a vibe. I'm down for it. So after all of that, now what?
Basically, you've got two choices, and it really comes down to risk vs reward. Like you've got to consider your relationship status, their relationship status, your connection, the situation, like you probably don't want to be shagging your boss doll, but if you do, pop off. Sexual tension is like, basically sexual tension is a natural body reaction, and it doesn't have to be accidental, like it can just be this really fun fantasy that like, you see them and you know it's always going to be a bit of flirty banter, and then you go home and tell all your friends about it, and it can just be that. It can totally just be that. But. If you want to pursue it and you get the vibe that they do as well, just go with the flow babe. Enjoy the flirty banter, remember sexual tension is mostly for a good time and not a long time. Don't be like me and get into a relationship based solely on sexual tension. It's not going to end well. I'm warning you. But, you know, we all make our mistakes so… at least you'll have good sex. If you do. That's all from me today queens, thank you so much for tuning in. If you want to read any more of my columns, you can find them on the Girls Get Off website under the blog tab, or if you haven't already, why haven't you? First question, second question, do you have Facebook? Because if you don't, I'll let you off the hook. But if you haven't already, join the Girls Get Off Uncensored Facebook group and find my columns under the topic Lights Off With Lily. I post some every Tuesday at 7pm. Until next time, thanks queens. Bye.
