24 Days Of Festive Pleasure: The Girls Get Off Adults Only Advent Cale

Ever looked at a chocolate advent calendar and thought, “Cool, but what about something for my clit?”

Same.

Because why should chocolate have all the fun?

This is your adults only sex advent calendar. Twenty four tiny, spicy missions to help you and your lover shake off end of year stress, feel closer, and give your Queen V the main character energy she deserves. It also incorporates our best female sex toy. Think fun, playful and totally shame free, not seedy sex shop vibes.

What is this adults only advent calendar, really?

At its core, this is just structured fun. Research on couples shows that trying new, self expanding activities together (even non sexual ones) boosts both sexual desire and relationship satisfaction. A sex advent calendar is basically that, but with more orgasms and tinsel.

It also nudges you to communicate about what feels good. Studies keep finding that better sexual communication is linked to higher sexual satisfaction and less stress about mismatched desire between partners. You do not need to quote the research in bed, but it is nice to know science is on your side.

How do you use this sex advent calendar?

Use it however you like:

Insert the ideas into your phone's calendar. Or simply print/write out each day and slip into envelopes (maybe even with the day's item), to open up each day.
Do one prompt each night in December up to Christmas Eve
Pick and mix a few favourites for a shorter calendar.
Adapt for solo play, long distance, queer couples or throuples
Consent check: Agree on a safe word or colour system (green, orange, red) and remember you can both skip or change any prompt that doesn’t feel good.

As always: everything is optional, everything is consensual, and you can change or skip anything that does not feel good in your body.

Below are the prompts for each day so you can follow along or cherry pick.

Day 1: The Sleigh Ride

One partner sits back against pillows, legs open, like a cosy sleigh. The other partner straddles their hips and starts a slow, controlled grind. Think rocking, not bouncing, like a sleigh gliding over snow rather than a rodeo.

Play with tempo: start slow, add tiny circles with your hips and use your hands to explore their chest, neck or thighs. If you want to turn things up a notch, add an external toy like Polly bullet vibrator at the clit or perineum while you ride.

⸻

Day 2: Good Girl Christmas

Tonight is all about praise. When you are in the bedroom, try calling her a “good girl”, “such a good girl for me” or any praise phrase that feels hot and safe for you both.

Start gentle:

• Whisper it in her ear while you kiss

• Say it when she tells you what feels good

• Moan it when she makes you feel amazing

Check in afterwards about what landed and what did not. If praise kink is her thing, you can sprinkle this through the rest of the calendar.

⸻

Day 3: The Reindeer Rider

Grab your favourite sex pillow like Bumpy Cuddles and have the receiving partner lie on their back, supported so their hips are slightly tilted. The other partner climbs on in a classic cowgirl position.

Once you are comfy, the rider leans back, bracing their hands on the bed or the partner’s thighs. This angle puts more pressure on the clit and G spot for a better chance at an O. Add a toy like Tiff dual stim vibrator on the clit while you ride to really light up the North Pole.

⸻

Day 4: Waterfall Wishes

Have you ever wondered how to waterfall or squirt, but felt a bit lost in the sauce? Today is a tease day.

Set the scene with a towel or Freak Sheet sex blanket , then spend the night exploring slow, firm pressure on the G spot and plenty of clit play without any pressure to squirt. If you need a bit of encouragement check out our Squirting 101 guide.

The goal is curiosity, not performance. If your body wants to waterfall, she will. If she does not, you still had a very good time.

⸻

Day 5: The Snow Angel Tease

Have your partner lie on their back like a snow angel. Their job is to stay put and soak up attention.

Your job for the first five minutes is teasing only:

• Light fingertip strokes on inner thighs

• Kisses along their hips and tummy

• Slow circles around nipples and outer vulva or shaft

No penetration, no rushing. When the timer goes off, swap and let them return the favour. Only after both of you have been teased silly are you allowed to move on to anything more festive.

⸻

Day 6: Naughty List Spanks

Tonight, your partner is officially on the Naughty List. Have them bend over a bed or couch, hips slightly raised. If you have Bumpy Cuddles pillow, slide it under their hips for support.

Start with slow fingertip drags down the back of their thighs. Then switch to a firmer palm press and squeeze their bum. When they are warmed up, try a gentle spank with a cupped hand, sweeping upwards toward their head rather than slapping straight down. Always stick to the fleshy bum cheeks and avoid lower back or bony areas.

Alternate between soft strokes, firmer grabs and light spanks, checking in for a safe word or traffic light system. Spicy, not scary.

⸻

Day 7: Tinsel Tie Up

Time for some very light bondage. Use a soft silk ribbon, scarf or tie and gently bind their wrists. You can tie each wrist to a side of the bed, or both together and attach to the headboard.

Keep it comfy. You should be able to fit two fingers under the tie and never leave your partner unattended. Spend the next ten minutes kissing, teasing and using a toy like Missy clitoral suction vibe or Wanda wand vibrator while they surrender control.

Want it more inclusive? Swap roles halfway through so everyone gets a turn to feel like a pretty, tied up present.

⸻

Day 8: Baste The Turkey (Booty Night)

Tonight is about booty play, not penetration straight away. Warm up the area for at least 10 to 15 minutes using finger anal massage techniques like small circles around the outside, star shapes, or the scouts honour method described in our Buttplay For Beginners guide.

Use a generous amount of water based lube like Juicee because your peach does not self lubricate. Once everything feels relaxed and happy, add a butt friendly toy like Betty vibrating butt plug to turn things up a notch. Hand the remote to your partner and let them control the tempo while you focus on breath, pleasure and that full, delicious feeling.

⸻

Day 9: Festive Facesitting

Try this festive facesitting idea if it feels fun and safe for you both. Snap a small section of a candy cane off and place it on top of your vulva, between your outer lips, not inside you.

Climb on top of your partner’s face in a position that feels secure and stacked, then let them taste the Christmas spirit as the mint melts and mixes with your own flavour. You can also do a clit safe version by placing the candy on your inner thigh and letting them lick their way towards you.

If you are on the giving end, use your hands to guide their hips and show them the rhythm you love.

⸻

Day 10: Present Under The Tree

Tonight you are the gift. Tie a ribbon around your waist, chest or thighs like a bow, pop on your favourite lingerie or get completely naked, and sit under the Christmas tree or at the end of the bed like the present you are.

Let your partner “discover” you, unwrap you and decide how to enjoy their surprise. You can even tuck a little note under the ribbon with a wish for how you would like to be touched, kissed or toyed with, so you feel extra empowered and in control.

⸻

Day 11: Silent Night, Not So Silent

Perfect for when you have got flatmates, kids or in laws in the house.

The challenge: give each other as much pleasure as possible while staying as quiet as you can.

Hands, mouths, thighs, pillows all allowed
No loud moans or bed banging if you can help it
If one of you lets a noise slip, the other person gets to choose a new position

Expect giggles, shushing and probably failing miserably, which is half the fun.

⸻

Day 12: Stocking Filler Solo Session

Tonight is solo only. No partner, no audience, no pressure.

Treat it like an actual date with yourself:

Have a shower, moisturise, put on something that makes you feel hot
Grab your favourite toy (like Missy clitoral suction vibe or Polly bullet vibrator) or just your hands
Try a new stroke, speed or fantasy you have not let yourself explore before

Afterwards, note down three things you liked. Solo knowledge equals a couple's superpower later.

⸻

Day 13: Candy Cane Temperature Play

Play with warm or cool sensations using things you already have at home.

Ideas:

Warm your hands under hot water, then hold an ice cube in the other
Trace your warm hand over their neck, chest and tummy
Follow with the cool hand on inner thighs, bum or lower back

Stay external. You are playing with skin and goosebumps, not putting ice anywhere inside. Swap roles so you both get the shivers.

⸻

Day 14: Freaky Snow Globe (Mess Free Night)

Tonight is no stress about the mess. Think lube, sweat, squirting, period sex, whatever your bodies want to do.

Lay down a towel or, if you have one, a Freak Sheet sex blanket, then:

Go generous on the lube
Try that position you have avoided because you were worried about mess
Let yourself relax instead of clenching or holding back

The goal is giving your body permission to be messy, not performing perfect sex for some imaginary camera.

⸻

Day 15: Under The Mistletoe Check In

This one is about emotional intimacy, not just orgasms.

Sit together (bonus points if you actually have mistletoe) and ask each other:

What has been your favourite sexual moment with me this year?
What is one thing you would love to try next year?
What is something you would like more of or less of?

Keep it curious, not critical. Then seal the chat with a make out session, and maybe some answers to your above questions.

⸻

Day 16: Little Drummer Girl (or Boy, or Babe)

Tonight is rhythm training.

On their clit, shaft, nipples or perineum, experiment with:

Tap tap pause, tap tap pause
Slow 1 2 3 strokes, then a long hold
Fast drumming for five seconds, then complete stillness

Ask which patterns make their hips move or their breath catch. Congratulations, you have just discovered their favourite beat drops.

⸻

Day 17: Stocking Stuffers Sext Game

All day, build tension over text.

Examples:

“You get to pick one thing I do to you tonight. Reply with A, B or C.”
“I am not wearing underwear today and you do not get to know when I took it off.”
“Tonight I want either oral, mutual masturbation, or a shower session. You decide.”

If you are long distance, finish the game on video call or voice notes with your hands (and toys, if you like) doing the talking.

⸻

Day 18: The North Pole (Anal Optional)

This one is for the butt curious. No one is required to go there if it is not your vibe.

If you are keen:

Spend 10 to 15 minutes on external anal massage only
Use lots of lube, think pumps not drops
Start with a finger or a very small plug

You can bring in a beginner friendly plug like Betty vibrating butt plug or Peaches butt plug, with the receiver totally in control of depth and speed. The goal is exploring new sensations, not forcing anal just because it is on the calendar.

⸻

Day 19: Three Wise Vibrations

Instead of three wise men, you are stacking three different sensations.

For example:

Start with Polly bullet on nipples or perineum
Add Missy or another clit toy on the vulva
Then bring in internal stimulation with DeeDee thrusting rabbit vibrator or a dildo

You can swap toys for hands, tongues or a pillow if your toy drawer is minimal. The fun part is noticing how each new layer changes the feeling and which combo becomes your go to “oh my god” setup.

⸻

Day 20: Sugar Cookie Massage

Turn your bedroom into a massage studio.

Light a candle, throw on a cosy playlist
Warm some oil or moisturiser in your hands
Do a full body rub down, including bum, hips and inner thighs

Stay in the sensual zone or slowly slide into more explicit touch, depending on what your bodies feel like. Either way, their nervous system will be very relaxed and very grateful.

⸻

Day 21: Afternoon Delight

Instead of waiting until you are exhausted at 11 pm, plan your festive pleasure for a time when you actually have energy.

Ideas:

Morning shower quickie before work
Lunchtime mutual masturbation
Mid afternoon oral session while the washing machine is going

If you use libido support like Afternoon Delighters, you can time today’s dose with your planned playtime and see how different things feel when you are not running on fumes.

⸻

Day 22: Santa’s Little Helper

Tonight is service night. One person’s job is to give. The other’s job is to receive without guilt.

Set a timer for 10 to 20 minutes and during that time:

The giver follows instructions, checks in, and does not rush
The receiver does not apologise or say “sorry this is taking so long”

You can swap afterwards or keep it as a one way treat. The whole point is practising “I get to receive and that is okay.”

⸻

Day 23: Christmas Movie Grind

Put on a Christmas movie you have seen a million times.

Sit on the couch spooning or with one of you half in the other’s lap. Then:

One hand slips into underwear
Or you line up so one of you can gently grind on the other’s thigh
Or you tuck a small pillow or folded blanket between your legs to rock on

The rule: you have to pretend you are still watching the film. No pausing. Just quietly getting each other off under the tinsel.

⸻

Day 24: The Night Before Clitmas

The big one. Save this for a night when you have got time and privacy.

Set the scene: fresh sheets, low lights, water nearby, phones on silent, maybe a Freak Sheet Sex blanket on the bed.
Body worship: spend at least 10 minutes each kissing, touching and complimenting everything except genitals.
Toy buffet: lay out your toys like a platter. Think Missy, DeeDee, Dilly suction dildo, Peaches butt plug, Wanda wand vibrator, Polly bullet, plus your favourite lube. Take turns picking one toy and one position for each round.
Shared finish: decide if you want to come together at the same time, take turns, or keep it soft and sensual without chasing orgasm at all.