Let’s talk about the punani tsunami

Commonly known as female ejaculation or squirting, the almighty act happens during a pleasurable experience when a vulva owner quite literally gushes (a little, or a lot of) fluid from within and or around their vagina…

And before you ask, no, it’s not pee.

While it’s a completely natural act, it doesn’t always occur easily so if you’re having a bit of trouble or simply curious, here is Morgan Penn’s guide to squirting.

It’s just like a sexual applause.

Firstly, what exactly is squirt? Contrary to popular belief, it’s not pee, and it’s not an orgasm. The clear, odourless fluid expelled during squirting comes from the urethral tube and surrounding “sponge”. This is due to the erectile and glandular tissues in the area, which can build up with and expel fluid after a rush of blood in the area, creating engorgement.

But that sounds overwhelming, so in basic terms, you being turned on = blood rush to your urethral glands = fluid build up = squirt.

Is squirting actually pee?

The question everyone whispers and nobody asks out loud. Between you and me: no, squirting is not just pee. The fluid comes from the Skene's glands (sometimes called the female prostate), which sit around the urethra. It can contain a trace of urine, but it's its own thing, and completely normal and healthy. The fastest way to stop yourself squirting is tensing up because you're scared you'll wee.

HOT TIP: Pop to the loo before you start. Empty bladder, zero anxiety, way more fun.

Can everyone squirt?

Real talk: yes. Pretty much everyone with a Queen V has the 'equipment' to squirt. The fluid comes from the Skene's glands, which we've all got. So squirting isn't a magic power some people are born with and others aren't. It's a skill, and like any skill it takes the right conditions and a bit of practice.

That said, not everyone has squirted 'yet', and that's completely okay. Some bodies get there easily, some need a lot of warm-up and a few goes. Squirting isn't the gold medal of sex. A big-O with no tsunami is still a triumph. So go in curious, not goal-obsessed. If it happens, brilliant. If it doesn't yet, you still had a delicious time.

Connect with your yoni

If you’re new to connecting with your yoni, Morgan suggests getting out a mirror and placing it between your legs to become more familiar with your vulva. Have a look at all the nooks and crannies and note how touching different areas creates different sensations.

Get comfortable

Now that you’re familiar with your yoni, it’s time to get comfortable!

This is a great time to release any tension you have in your body.

• Have a shake out of your limbs, go to the toilet, take some deep breaths.

For physical comfort

• Light some candles around your room, lay down a towel or mink, have massage oil and lube handy, and any toys you would like to use eg. Missy, a dildo, etc..

Try a comfortable position

• Standing with one leg up (as if you were going to insert a tampon)
• Lying down flat on your back with your legs bent up
• Squatting with your legs spread apart
• Sit on your knees and lean on something like your bed

Warm up your body

This is a super important step and not one you can rush. You really want to warm up your body and create arousal as it will help prevent any pain, soreness or injury when you perform the following steps.

Aim for approximately 20 to 40 minutes of warm-up, as this is the amount
of time it takes for your vagina to fully engorge.

Start by focusing on your erogenous zones, e.g. Your neck, around your ears, your nipples.

Then go downstairs. Massage your inner thighs before moving onto long strokes around your outer labia followed by gentle strokes or stretches on your inner labia.

Locate your G-spot

(this can be a great time to use your mirror)

Before going internal, ask your Yoni for consent - remember it’s all about feeling safe and comfortable.

Time to get precise, because anatomy deserves accuracy. Your G-spot is on the front wall of your Queen V (the side toward your belly button), around 4 to 6cm in. When you're properly aroused it feels a little different to the smooth walls around it: slightly raised and ridged, like the texture of a walnut.

To find her: 

1. Use the tip of your middle finger and lightly draw circles around the opening of your vagina
2. Slowly push one or two well-lubed fingers, palm facing up, inside your vagina until it reaches your first or second knuckle
3. Make a slow "come here" motion toward the front wall (toward your belly button). That curling 'beckon' is the move. 
   

Take your time, this is a treasure hunt, not a race.

HOT TIP: Can't find it straight away? Totally normal. Get more aroused, add more lube, and try again. It's far easier to feel when you're fully warmed up.

Stimulate your G-spot

Keep that "come hither" rhythm going: firm, steady, consistent pressure rather than frantic. As things build (this may take a while - most vulva-owners take 30-40min to become fully 'engorged' aka for all the blood to rush to the genitals).

As you become more and more 'engorged' and turned on, you'll likely feel a need-to-pee sensation. This is the moment most people stop. Don't. That feeling means you're on exactly the right track. Instead of clenching away from it, gently bear down and push out, like you're relaxing into it. Pairing G-spot pressure with a little clit play at the same time is the combo that tips many people over the edge.

Bonus ways to stimulate your g-spot:

1. Lube up to prevent pain, soreness or injury
2. If you feel comfortable, place your ring finger inside your vagina additional to your middle finger and begin moving them in a circular clockwise motion
3. Use your last and index fingers to stimulate your outer labia
4. Push your knuckles against your perineal sponge (this is the piece of skin between your anus and vaginal opening)

As you become more aroused you will notice your vulva starting to puff up and get bigger. This is because blood is rushing to the area which will help create the ejaculation fluid. This is essentially you getting an 'erection'!

Listen to your body

1. Once you know what rhythm and hand movements feel good for you, find a position that feels comfortable (tilt your hips, move side to side, up and down, allow yourself to get a bit weird and wild)
2. If you feel the pressure building up and want to focus on your g-spot/crest, do it
3. If you feel like you want to pee, begin to push down with your pelvic floor muscles

It can be hard to squirt when there are toys or fingers in the vagina, so it’s a fine art figuring out when to pull out. It’s all about trusting your body at this point.

Am I done?

If you’re unsure if you’ve squirted - you probably haven’t.

If you’ve got more lubrication than normal and it felt really good, you probably did.

And if you can hear the splashy splosh, and you can definitely feel it getting all juicy up there, it means you are very close, so at that point, keep going.

I squirted! Now what?

Aftercare is important after a session like this as it can be a really intense experience for your body.

A good way to ground yourself is by putting a hand on your heart and a hand over your vulva in a cup-like shape at the same time, taking a breath and thinking about the experience you just had.

Reconnect with yourself.

BONUS Squirting Tip: Pop a Freak Sheet down beforehand so you can fully let go in your mind and not have any worries of cleaning up afterwards!

The best toys for squirting

Fingers are great, but they get tired, and that consistent G-spot pressure is exactly what a good toy is built for.

Elle: our curved G-spot girl, shaped to reach right up to that front wall. The extra weight of elle compared to fingers adds more pleasure, and if you're solo Elle makes it far easier to get the correct angle without getting a tired arm.

Deedee: another G-spot superstar if you want to feel steady, rumbly, thrusting pressure on your g-spot that squirting loves. No hand moving required - deedee does all the work, just press down on the base of Deedee to put more pressure on your g-spot as opposed to her thrusting straight in and out of your vagina. 

Juicee: our signature water-based lube, and you'll want lots of it. Slip and slide before you ride (yes this goes for fingers or toys!)

How to make your partner squirt

Bringing your boo along for the ride? Same playbook, just shared. Open those big ol' doors of communication first, and agree that if it stops feeling good, you stop. Then: take your time with foreplay, find that front-wall G-spot with a curled "come here" motion, keep the pressure firm and steady, and add clit stimulation alongside. Remind your person that the urge-to-pee feeling is a green light, not a red one. The biggest mistake partners make? Rushing, and going too hard too soon. Patience is the whole skill here, boo. It's not unusual for this to take over half an hour of fun and exploration so don't set any expectations, try and remove any pressures, relax and enjoy!

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Squirting FAQ

Is squirting the same as a G-spot orgasm? 

Not exactly. You can have a G-spot orgasm (or any kind of orgasm for that matter) without squirting, and squirt without a big climax. They often travel together but they're separate events.

Does squirting mean I had a better orgasm? 

Nope. A quiet, dry big-O can be just as glorious, but most people will say that squirting feels like a delicious release 

Why can't I squirt (yet)? 

Usually it's tension, not enough warm-up, or stopping right when the need-to-pee feeling hits. The equipment's all there. Squirting is a skill, so relax, take your time, lean into that sensation, and give it a few goes. No pressure, no rush.

Is it safe? 

Totally. It's a natural, healthy function. Keep things hygienic, use body-safe lube, and stop if anything hurts.

Want more? Read How to Have Mind-Blowing G-Spot Orgasms