Weekly Quickie Episode 3: Matthew Hussey Dating Tips, Instagram Growth to 200K & Freak Sheets Drama

No  You're listening to the Girls Get Off podcast, an R18  podcast in all things female pleasure. Think girl talk, but real girl talk, where we chat all things masty, self-loving, sex, orgasms and more. Nothing is off limits, which means you get all the secrets even our guests BFFs don't know. We're on a mission to make talking about getting off as fun as actually doing it. Ready to join the Mastination? Let's get into it. Hello and welcome to the Girls Get Off podcast. If you're new here, we're the Vinjo, founders of sexual wellness brand Girls Get Off.  So this season, the pod has had a of a glow up and we are excited to share with you our weekly segment, the weekly quickie. This is where we keep you updated on what's happening in the GGO world, what's new in electric toothbrushes and what's going on in our lives. We'll release an episode every Wednesday, so make sure you follow the podcast and do us a favor and share it with your friends. Well, we can dive straight into it this week by talking about our Instagram account. think this time last week, we talked about how it had been suspended and then just after we recorded, we got it back. And then the end of the week, we just hit 200k. So it's been an absolute roller coaster in the social media department. Yeah, roller coaster was the right word to describe it. Yeah. But what a number 200k. That feels good. Feels so good. And I mean, when we got the account back, they said for the second time. Sorry, you haven't done anything wrong. We found your account follows community guidelines. So I can't work out why, whether it's been people reporting us or what, but I'll keep trying to dig and figure out why it might've been suspended. But here we go, we're back. That's all that matters right now. I know, I know. And hello to all 200,000 of you. Yeah, that's cool. That's very cool. We also have a bit of an update with the Freak Sheets and if you've been following along with the GGO journey for a while now, this is going to cause me to be an alcoholic. Basically, I like the biggest headache ever is trying to get this product how we want it. And I think that's key, right? Because we've we've managed to get the product. But is it the quality we want? No, is it? you know, it's just not up to standard.  And  third time lucky,  I have high hopes  for this  new supplier.  Come on, Tony.  So if you haven't seen our social media before of the Freak Sheets, they're waterproof blankets. So lot of people will use them for period sex, if they're squirting,  if it's summer and it's sweaty and you just don't want to change your bed sheets or be all gross.  They are actually, I think, one of our most underrated products. So I  personally was  always like, I don't know why these are so popular and we keep getting asked for them. And once we  made them and we launched them, having  owned Freak Sheets myself and even my housemate, we are just, we swear by them. It was  so much easier to just put a Freak Sheet down and you don't have to worry about anything, any bodily fluids, no stress, and then just  whack it in the washing machine afterwards. And so I guess for context, the first two batches,  We just had manufacturing fault and then we had waterproof lining issue.  I mean, the good thing is that because we had those manufacturing faults, we were able to  realize we wanted some different designs as well. So that means our freight sheets are gonna be like literally no one has ever seen them like this before.  We just have to  cross our fingers and hope that our new mate Tony gets it sorted for us.   Yeah, no, absolutely. think um when we just went to China this last time with manufacturer number two,  we went over to  meet them  and  they pulled out this sample that they were so proud to show us  and they've tipped water on it and the water went straight through.  We're like, key point,  waterproof blanket,  we need it waterproof. So I just no longer had faith in them basically.  So we are  moving on to bigger and better. And school holidays, Joe, you are a free woman this week. I know, I know. It's  it's a wild feeling.  Usually, you know, like you make the most of kid free time  and usually I'll be in China visiting Viv,  something on  and  I just  do not have anything on. I've started Pilates,  but Yeah, I,  you know, having a little  nosy on the apps again  just for shits and giggles because,  you know, boredom.  You've got time.  I do have time. I've accidentally  done a right swipe to a couple and then I like, you know, like you freak out.  But no, no one intentionally has  had the swipe yet.  Have you got your radius different to last time?  No, but good point. Good point. guess if they're more free though, that was the other thing. That actually, no. And I've always been like, you know, I love my own time and stuff, so long distance,  no sweat. However, I feel like when you actually like someone, it might be nicer to have them close.  You never know. You never know. You are in a small pool in Rotorua, so I don't blame keeping that radius wide for, you know, best chances. Yeah, totally. And what's happening with you? No school holidays to worry about for you, but... No school holidays to worry about for me. Just same as usual. I've been reading. And we need a guy update. Guy update is I... Well, let's talk about the book first. So I got a Kindle a while ago and decided I need... I operate better if my phone is not in my room when I go to sleep. And I just decided I need to read more books. I'm going to get a Kindle. It's a lot easier than just... Over the years I end up just stacking up so many books and if I want to go somewhere else or do something different,  I've then just got piles and piles of books. So  I'm now a Kindle convert. Shout out to my friend Lou who made Strapsicle as well. So I don't drop it. It is the best invention ever.  I can go to the beach, I can read whatever I want and I'm not going to drop it. I did drop it in the sand, but  it's  so handy. This is my new favorite hobby. Anyway.  I read books about a lot of different things and I realized I've never really read books about dating. I read books about everything else that I want to learn more about and go off into these little tangents.  And I thought a while ago, I think I mentioned on our first one, hey, I'd listened to that men are from Mars, women are from Venus. I was  learning to communicate better.  And I thought, why not learn some more about my target customer, AKA men?  I think, look, a lot of these books are. broad brush strokes. It's always nuanced. There's always exceptions to the rule, but I've actually found it quite fascinating. So I've read two so far. read,  oh, I can't even remember the names of them. The one I'll talk about today is Matthew Hussey.  Get the guy. Have you  seen Matthew Hussey's stuff on social media? we love Matthew Hussey. You introduced me to Matthew Hussey four years ago,  ish I reckon. Did I? Yeah. Yeah. Like I'd always see his stuff pop up on social media. Loved it. And I just thought, Oh, I'll read this book, see what it's like.  So I guess  As with  anything, I'm just a believer that you don't, unless you learn about it, you're not supposed to be born good at it, you know?  Sometimes you are, but there's always more that you can improve on.  And I guess my approach to dating in the past has been,  I also think you can't go on lots of dates and have all these different interactions without realizing who's the common denominator here, you know? Like you can't have all these different interactions with different people, but the same story almost keeps happening in different ways  and not think,  oh. I might need to do some work. of course I've done therapy before, this time we're doing some book reading.  And one of the things that has come out of this book, which has been  like making me laugh,  is  the overall theme, I guess, was men don't appreciate what they don't earn. So for example, if they haven't really had to work for something,  so an example of that would be, I just want to also preface this by saying, this is all broad brush, there's always exceptions to the rule, blah, blah.  I, it would be like if someone gave you a car straight away  and you would, think that was a little bit strange and B,  you wouldn't have had to work for it or pay for it and you probably wouldn't appreciate it that more. So the idea is  that in dating,  if you are like, easily available, easily available, coming on, like not coming on too strong.  it doesn't, this is not talking about like, this is not talking about you shouldn't sleep with them on the first date.  This is more meaning. Messaging them 10 times in the first half of the day. Exactly. Yeah, 100%. So this was making me laugh because my housemate is gay, but he's obviously a guy. So he's almost like the best of both worlds. He understands the girls, but he also understands the boys' brains. And because everything else in my life, if I want something, I go and get it. if I don't like muck around, I don't like... waiting for things. um And so  I've always been like, if he's hot, I'll go and like hit on him or  talk to him or just go all in. it just, I'm like, why would I beat around the bush? He's not earning it.  So we were laughing the other day because I got, I was at a bar and I missed a guy message the day after saying,  are you busy today? And I wasn't sure whether he was talking about,  because I'd said, do you want to come and pick up some of these condoms for his work or whatever? He said, I can come pick them up today.  Like, are you busy today? I didn't know if he was talking about the condoms and picking them up or he was asking me on a date. And normally I would just message and say, hey, the condoms are in Auckland. I have to ship them to you. But are you asking me on a date? I'd normally just say that  out loud. But this time I was like, we're using the new strategies. I'm like, just leave it. And sure enough, he said, what are you doing tomorrow? Let me take you out for dinner.  Blah blah blah, and I'm like, you go, Matthew Hussey, you should be so proud. I told three of my guy friends this and they all pissed themselves laughing. They're like, well done Vivian, you're really making leaps and bounds here, such progress. But I'm normally just black and white. Yeah, up until now you've had a very business approach to dating as well and it's just been like strategic, like boom boom boom type of thing. So nice to sit back and let them do some work, I love it. And also things like if, someone has said,  let's go out for dinner next week, for example,  I am the kind of person who I end up going out for dinner two or three times a week. So I would normally say, what night are we going out? I need to put it on my calendar just to like get my life sorted. But now I'm like, no,  I'll wait for them to do it. So I'm not available all the time, blah, blah, blah. for me,  it's just like really little tweaks. And  at the end of the day, if someone's not into it and they're not going to put in that much effort then.  Who cares, doesn't worry. But as long as  that for me then has reframed it in my head because in a way that is still progress, whereas in the past I'm like, hurry up, chop chop, let's get this sorted. I'm like,  action taking all the time. So that's been quite good.  The second thing  I  loved reading about was  not relying on just being nice. And I feel  like Matthew talked about in the book how  a lot of guys might go on a date with a girl and say she was really nice, but they are also looking for.  Playfulness, banter,  like flirting, all these other little different things. And I thought that is so interesting because I think,  you know, if you were, if you were able to go on a date with a guy, a hundred percent, you'd see the same thing. You'd be like, oh, they're just a little bit nice.  Well, they're just nice, but there's nothing, you know, there's no depth there or anything. And I think that goes both ways  and reflecting on dates that I've had and been like, yeah, I wasn't really like teasing or something that I normally would to someone I was more comfortable with. So I think just being aware of that and  you know. plenty of strengths a bit more is also  not a bad shout. I also liked  the way that he worded this was  standards create desire. And the way I interpreted that was  for me personally was  like standards matter more than agreeableness. Often if someone will say something that maybe I don't agree on and I've just started seeing someone. I might just file it away or go, or I don't really know how to bring that up at the time. Or what are you even talking about? Or also like, I just don't really care. You know, I don't really want to this full conversation right now. I'm just,  I'll just, have that another time, you know? And hey, that's pretty avoidant. But  to then realize that  he is saying  guys  appreciate a woman who is, or someone who is like clear boundaries, good standards, so on and so forth. And I'm like, I love that. And that actually just, gives me again a good reframe to be like, you should always bring up something that, you why are you saying it? Why would you say it like that? Why would you say it that way? At the end of the day, if that turns them off, they're not the right person for you, hey? So that's, you know, have your own standards and stuff, yeah. Yeah, and so then seeing that as a positive thing rather than being like, oh God, can't really be bothered to deal with drama. It's not really that deep, so not really caring about it. That's been quite good. And the last one.  is  being proactive  in your love life, which I really liked too. I think we discussed as well how  I was like, I've deleted the apps, it's just, I'm gonna play to my strengths and talk to more people. And then to read in the book, he was super  big on talking to as many people as possible, even if you don't find them attractive,  use it as  practice. when people say, oh, the guy should make the first move and all the rest of it, but. It's a two way street and still like go and talk to the guy at the bar, go and physically move yourself closer to him. Like even though we talk about saying, okay, maybe you want to give someone an opportunity to put some effort in and work for it. And,  um, you know, like you would any other journey in life, it still doesn't mean you've got to sit there and then complain that no one's talking to you, you know? So I like how proactive it is. Um, and I really liked that take as well. that just supported my  current strategy too. Nice. Proactive with a side of.  Not being too, like letting them come as well.  Yeah, like a Creating the opportunities for,  yeah, okay.  Yeah, like if there's a hot guy at the gym, talk to them  and- No, thank you.  But then don't, if you're not going to, then don't. You can't turn around and say, oh, guys should be asking me out or making the first move. Because there's also a world where guys are really mindful of not wanting to be creepy or come across too much. They've been told that there's, and of course there's always a lot of that, but they're also quite mindful that they don't wanna encroach, know? So giving someone the opportunity is also quite good. Very true. All in all, very fascinating book. I read another book too, which had a few different- uh sort of tips and ideas, but I really like the way that Matthew Hussey had worded it all. Yeah, nice. Yeah, we love Matthew Hussey. That's great.  And  have we been for dinner with this guy?  No, we haven't been for dinner. I haven't pushed it and I don't care now.  So happy days. He actually  ended up, the personal thing came up  and then we had  looked to rescue Joanne. It hadn't really happened. But again, it's my new strategy.  I'm like... Happy days. Normally I'll be like, all right, hurry up. I need to put it in the calendar because otherwise  I get booked up. But now I'm like, well, that's to my advantage. happy days.  Yeah, nice.  Love it.  So that's my new strategy. So I'll keep you posted. Yeah. Can't wait. Can't wait. No, I love that. Perfect. I think we need a book update from you each week because that's, that's very good knowledge from. for people like that. I know, but the new book that I'm reading is, oh absolutely been ripping through the books, but the new book that I'm reading is called The Body Keeps the Score about trauma stored in the body  and the study of trauma as a whole, but it's quite a long one. I've  a few hundred pages in and I'm only like 20%, so I don't know how thick this book is in real life, but that's also been fascinating. I'm loving that. Maybe you need to put the books down to be more proactive. uh No, perfect. I love it. Alright, yeah, no more dating books. Let's, let's steer away from the trauma though. I've heard that book is great. Yeah, I think it's relevant for anyone. It's like, yeah, I've missed reading from my life for a while. And it's been so long since, oh, once again, when I got the Kindle, I thought, I honestly couldn't tell you the last time I read a fiction book, all I read is nonfiction business books. And I had to ask friends about what they were reading. But now as you can see, I've gone back to dating and a trauma book. So.  Well, can give you all the recommendations.  I did start reading one of the smart  ones  and  I can't remember the name. was a court. A court of thought. She starts, she starts by hunting in the woods. kills a wolf. Yeah. Akita series. That's as far as I go before I read the trauma one instead.  Alright, well that's it for our weekly  quickie this week. I guess let us know  what you want to hear more of as well. That would be handy. Yeah, if you've got any dating book suggestions, let me know. I'm going deep on my target customer right now.  Nice, alright.  If you're not ready, make sure you follow the podcast wherever you're listening.  Share it with your friends  and  if you have  things that you'd like to ask us, we're to do a monthly segment. sharing all our DMs anonymously of course so  you can either  the easiest way will be to just email us at jellyleagues at girlsgetoff.com thank you for listening. Perfect on socials you can find us at girlsgetoff on Instagram and Facebook and also our Facebook group girlsgetoffuncensored  Talk to you next week. Bye