Weekly Quickie Episode 2: Our Instagram Got Suspended Again + Jo's Dating Tea 🍵

Go You're listening to the Girls Get Off podcast, an R18  podcast in all things female pleasure. Think girl talk, but real girl talk, where we chat all things masty, self-loving, sex, orgasms and more. Nothing is off limits, which means you get all the secrets even our guests BFFs don't know. We're on a mission to make talking about getting off as fun as actually doing it. Ready to join the Mastination? Let's get into it. Hello and welcome to the Girls Get Off podcast. If you're new here,  we're Viv and Jo, founders of sexual wellness brand Girls Get Off.  This season the pod has a bit of a glow up and we're excited to share with you our weekly segment, the weekly quickie.  This is where we keep you updated on what's happening in the GGO world, what's new in electric toothbrushes and what's going on in our lives.  We'll release an episode every Wednesday so make sure you follow the podcast. and do us a favor by sharing it with your friends.  We've also got a couple of other segments that will all be revealed in episodes to come.  However, let's kick things off with what's been happening in the GGO business world. Or what  hasn't been happening  because we've currently lost our account.  So yesterday  I logged into Instagram and had seen that some of our content had been flagged as it often  does get picked up, might be because we've shown the vibrator in content or it could be  because Instagram's picked up on certain wording. So even though we censor things and we don't say things like vibrator, um it can still pick up with how clever AI is now that what we're sort of talking about. And so as I was going to edit some of that content and remove some of the content, then the next thing I knew it said account suspended, which has happened to us.  multiple times before and if you have been following for a while then you will be fully aware  but I guess the concerning thing is that  yes while it's happened before it hasn't  happened to the stage where we've had our accounts suspended  many times it's only happened that sort of only happened twice  one being like a couple of months ago so this will be our third time now getting the account suspended and hopefully we can get it back I don't believe that these things just like disappear into the ether I think the  account will still be there.  we've appealed it.  I'll take some more steps today to try and get it back. And so um we've asked everyone on Instagram to shake their phone, report an issue, say, hey, how come I can't find at girls get off? But  I  think we've recorded a podcast about this before, haven't we Joe, around how this is, you know, it is our main marketing channel, but it's also why we  emphasize so much to, you know, try and get people across to the email list, to the podcast like this, and also to other sort of. Yeah, back up Instagram accounts. So  the burner Instagram account will have a lot of activity on it this week.  Yeah, nice. um Viv does better at not stressing about this stuff than I do. So I'm just like blocking it out and continuing on with my day like nothing's happening.  I think in the Instagram world in general they've been shutting lots of stuff down. For a while there when Zuckerberg came out maybe a year ago saying we're not going to have as much censorship on the platform, that actually worked in our favour and we could show the toys again. But I think because we've been promoting the sale and I thought let's give some people some specific tips to do with the toys. You know, you can put this here, you can do this.  Even though we've used different words like place this underneath the tennis balls,  showing a few tennis balls in the video.  um That might have been the thing that's pushed us over the edge, I don't know. But  time will tell, we'll get there. Yeah, yeah, just  can't  be showing toys anymore.  Toy brand that can't show toys, cool. Yeah, great. um And now  while we're talking issues,  the  next issue we're having at the moment, do you want to elaborate there, Viv?  The other issue we're having at the moment  is because our content of Bumpy Cuddles has been going so well,  people were just loving the before and after.  Bumpy Cuddles is our sex pillow, so people are loving the content of showing,  you know, if you have sex and put a couple of pillows under your butt versus if you use Bumpy Cuddles and showing the difference in the angle and what that creates.  I think because the content has gone so well that now we've started seeing Amazon copycat brands pop up. And we'd seen other like sort of knockoff products in the market and some people had messaged us saying, hey, why would I pay, you know, over a hundred dollars for a sex pillow from you where someone's selling this on Teemu for $40. And the first reason is, and the main reason is because it's not the same material. So you will find in these Amazon products are all the same as well. They look the same shape or they might look like they do a similar thing, they might be a wedge shape or like almost like an ergonomical back pillow,  but they're memory foam so as soon as you lie on them you just immediately squash to the ground and I got Jackie to send us, one of our team members to send me one of those pillows so I could do a demonstration of bumpy cuddles versus a knockoff  and sure enough you just, it's like you may as well use your normal pillows rather than use one of those knockoffs  so at the moment we're trying to get Amazon to take those listings down but that's a whole other thing as well so you know we'll get there. Yeah, and that's like a full extreme  knockoffs as well to the point that they've totally  used our photos, like they've kind of merged our heads, our heads and stuff on these pictures to, yeah, yeah, it's pretty wild. I was like, that's my butt. I'm like, that's my bum. What's happening? I'm like, literally using my I haven't even been in any,  yeah, in any Bumpy Cuddles content. And here's my face like stuck to this. I know. And I saw a message from someone the other day saying, hey, uh you need to make it your products with firmer foam because it sinks right to the bottom. And I thought, oh my gosh, this person has literally purchased a knockoff  yellow. Like they're not purchasing the one that we sell. So yeah,  look, they're expensive  for a reason because A, they're a big product  to ship, but they're also the material that they're made of is like specifically designed for you to get those right angles.  All right. And we'll end on some good business news. uh We  are as of a week ago maybe, maybe a bit longer because  we're not actually sure when we got told by a customer,  but we're  in  chemist warehouse now, which is  so exciting. Yay.  These retail things take so long to come to fruition, right? Yeah, 100%, 100%. And  hence why we didn't know it had actually happened because this has been in the pipeline for  Gosh, it must have been almost a year ago I went and did the pitch with them, hey. Yeah, it would have been. Yeah, wow. I think the process for getting into these retailers, you know, imagine like aisles of a supermarket. They've all, you know, you've got the sauce in one place, you've got the canned foods in another place, and they only decide what products they're gonna stock in each section, like maybe once a year. So you can go in, like Joe did, I actually think it was last September. go in, pitch to them, this is our brand, these are our products, and then they then decide, okay, yeah, maybe we will, maybe we won't.  If they decide yes, which they did for us, it has taken almost a year to actually get those products on the shelf. So I feel like while a lot of people have said, congratulations,  I'm like, this feels like it's been such a long time coming for us. It's like, oh, finally, it's still so exciting. Because now, you know, people can, instead of DMing us, oh, can I pick up? I'm late, I'm running late. Now people can just go into Chemist's warehouse in New Zealand and get the products that they need to, or have a look, see how big it is, feel the dot on the outside, touch the silicone, feel how soft it is. But yeah, it's been a long time in the pipeline. Now let's move on to something a bit more exciting. Or maybe. I think people want to know.  Jo,  give us your dating update. Okay.  That's so funny. Yeah. Exciting, but not exciting because it's no longer dating.  But okay, for anybody that's new here,  you may have seen  like  me dating has been a very  non-existent thing. I  have been single for eight years.  has tried everything, including billboards.  to get me a date. um I have had the occasional one, uh nothing,  nothing where I've texted anyone back after  meeting them. Well, I may know, sorry, I have taken them back nicely, but you know,  things haven't continued.  So I met this guy on hinge  a couple of months ago, maybe I think we were talking for about six weeks, months, six weeks, something like that. I don't know.  And It was great. was the best experience I have had  in a long, long, long time.  And it included lots of firsts for me. was like, I didn't realize how  behind the ball, like behind the game I was. Right. So  I hadn't had sober sex in like eight years. So Joe has sober sex. Tick.  Why were you not having sober sex?  Because I love sober sex. I'm like, give me an afternoon. Like, yeah, sure, drinking can be fun. I'm like, like afternoon play session. Let's go. Let's like really lean into it. But drunk sex for me, I'm like, it's just like, we're at 20 % capacity, you know? Yeah, but  I  it's drunk Joe that would let me down, right? Because I had no interest in guys whatsoever until I had one drink in me. And then I was like a dude radar where I'm like,  you know, so it was, yeah, this is why only drunk sex in so long, because sober me didn't actually want anybody.  But also, when I first  met this guy, it was the first time like I've been scared of dating. I've been scared of guys like. don't want anything to do with that.  I met this guy on the first date and it's like my fear just went. So it was such a good experience to know that that kind of can happen too. Why did your fear go away? What was the first time? know. think you just  like, must've just felt safe, right? But that, and that,  that leads into like another first, which was I slept beside the guy,  which I don't sleep beside people. I've tried to, but I just don't sleep because,  I guess it's like a, don't feel safe thing or something, you know?  And so this guy just like instantly must've made me feel like safe and you know,  it was really good experience. Was there anything he did or anything he said that was different to say someone you couldn't sleep with,  like would sleep,  physically sleep  in the past next to?  Right,  this I have wracked my brain over because I don't think there's anything specifically,  but I was just comfortable  with him  and  I don't know.  I don't know. Maybe I needed therapists to tell me what it is.  Not sure.  But em yeah, yeah. So anyway, logistically,  like after talking for, I don't know, about six weeks or something and only kind of seeing him properly  once,  like, well, we had a couple of like coffee dates, but then just seeing  each other once.  It like  it wasn't what  I need the intimacy. want the full boyfriend experience. You know, I don't want just sex. when you're struggling to see each other and you just have to settle for like little times  at a time, it feels like it's just sex. Right. Like even if everything else is great and stuff like you miss out on that core. part that you're wanting. And I think you say it well, right? Like we can get ourselves off. It's,  you know, like if that's all I wanted, I wouldn't even be going to the effort of talking to somebody. I  guess that showed that it's like really important for me, like key part. And for people listening, why was it so hard to like actually see each other in person? um Well, we lived two hours away and even though that doesn't seem far, uh we both have two kids. So at the start of any dating, right? Like  when there's kids involved, you need to do it um outside of kid time.  know, like you don't want to introduce someone to, well, some people might, but I don't want to introduce someone to kids early until you know that they're kind of like in there for the long haul.  But he worked long hours,  week on, week off. So  the last time I'd organized to go see him and then he ended up couldn't get the time off work. So it was just going to be like a,  a night between his shifts.  And I'm like, we'd literally have sex and then fall asleep. And by the time I woke up, he'd be gone back to work.  And that was the only time in a month we could see each other. And so,  yeah, hate to say it, but it just wasn't,  wasn't enough, you know? Wasn't enough, but also  biggest learnings. had some learnings come out of it, which we love some learnings.  Effort  says a lot.  And  yeah, I don't. He'll probably listen to this. So to a point, I think it actually comes down to effort as well. And  I think effort is attractive.  I also think you're just like, you've just got more.  but you've just got more shit on. Do you know what I mean? Like if I was dating, if you guys were living down the road from each other and he  didn't have his, know, because he's week on week off,  when he's week off, he's also got his kids. So that just makes things super logistically hard.  If you were just down the road from each other and could go for like a walk together, go for coffee together, like I feel like  then that would be different. But if it's like actually hours in the day, don't have them,  then that's like so much. That's so much to, you know, organize and at stake compared to if you were just both single when then he wasn't making, you know, time to see you. 100%. So, so yeah, there's, guess there's situation. It comes down to that whole, you know, like if they want it to, they would. Right? Like you always hear that. And I guess there's an element. There's a slight element of that. In there with the right or wrong. Maybe I feel like I was,  I was  not sacrificing more, but I was  maybe trying to put myself, I was putting myself out more to try and make it happen. Yeah. Than he was. And there was just that slight difference and it wasn't much like this, this is a great guy that if this hadn't have been, and like if logistics hadn't have been an issue, I'm sure that  we would have kept. seeing each other. I just don't also know how this guy thinks he is going to date with the hours he has in the day. Because if he is working, like if he's working and he doesn't have his kids, again, unless someone's like just down the road from him, I just don't see how he would have any, because he's also working what, like 12 hour days or something. Yeah. It's not like he can like drive and, well, he could drive and see someone and drive back, but that's like quite a lot. Or when you were going to meet up, he like literally has to get work off. to see you, is like great, but it's also not sustainable. 100 % and like, like we always kind of, we always said, like we're talking about, funny. We're talking for a few weeks. Like we always said, um, no, it's, it surely would only get easier, right? Though, cause once you got to know each other and it was like more long-term and then the kids could be around each other and everything else, then it would get to a stage where it got easier, but to get to that stage, um, Yeah, yeah,  but I think I've had a couple of weeks to think about it and that's where the effort thing came from. I'm like, Oh, I think I was just kind of putting out a bit more than  think that that was a little bit lopsided. I get that things are,  you had a lot to work around and stuff,  but maybe I. Maybe I shouldn't have been.  So a car, no, I wasn't accommodating. I don't know what happened, but there was  a little,  there was a slight  bit of  me feeling like I was, you know, putting in more. Yeah. But also by default because you don't have to, yeah, it just logistically kind of  comes across as makes the most sense. Yes.  Very true. Very What were your other learnings? um The other learnings was that I need the whole boyfriend experience.  So that was a, it was just a good like wake up, you know, I think knowing what you want is great. So yes, I want the whole boyfriend experience. um And also  that.  We know that like,  we know that open comms are key,  but  I think you're going to laugh at me for this one because I think it's kind of obvious.  Being like  vulnerable and open about your feelings towards someone as well is actually a good thing.  It's like,  like as in  not being afraid to say like, I like you or I'm into you.  Yeah. Yeah. And I think,  um,  I think I laugh at this because over the past eight years, I think you've probably heard me say like, oh, like, like, would they just shut up? you know, like, and I'm like, oh my gosh, clinger, clinger. But I was like, huh. That's when you don't like them. Well, yeah, see, like, and I was just like, I remember saying on a podcast, I think with Hannah Ferguson, I was like, and the guys like putting in effort and stuff. And I'm like, red flag, like. And now I'm just like, okay, we like effort. like being vulnerable with feelings and stuff. So yes, I was like, this is not a red flag, this is a green flag. So that was big learning. I like it. I like it. That's good. What a cool learning. Yeah. I think it's a learning that most people like know already, but it's good for me to realize it. I don't know, I think there's lots of things in the dating and sex world that we don't realise we don't know. Like, especially in a place where you think it's supposed to be so obvious because everyone's doing it, like dating or having sex.  We see it all the time with people,  you know, I ask people to send in submissions of  how they like to be eaten out in the bedroom and I was like, oh my god, these are so creative, like I would have never thought about this.  for you to say that you've only just learned it, I just don't think that that's unusual for people to have  learnings where they're like, wow, that seems pretty obvious, but no one's talking about it. in that way,  you know, we just talk about you go on dates, you like them, you don't, whatever, they did this, they did that, I did this, whatever, but you don't actually, yeah,  unless you learn through experience, like it's one thing to just hear about it, but another to like, no, you know?  Yeah, yeah,  yeah, true, okay. Yay, well,  if you've liked this podcast,  you can listen every week on this channel, wherever you're listening,  make sure you give us a review and follow the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. We're recording our first sex files episode this Friday,  so stay tuned for that. That's going to be our fortnightly episode where we talk to everyday people about the juicy sex stuff. uh think in the past we've talked to sexologists, but we find this so much more interesting talking to everyday people and normalizing sex. If you want to follow more than the podcast, can check us out at girlsgetoff, maybe.  You can say at ggo.burner and you can also join our Facebook group, Girls Get Off Uncensored.  And if you need to get in contact with us again, is jellylegs at girlsgetoff.com. Have a great week.  Bye.