Secrets of a 21yr old Sugar Baby

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Hello and welcome to another episode of the Girls Get Off. podcast. Today we're joined with a sugar baby. I'm excited. Are you excited babe? I know this episode I think sheds the light on something that we hear about a little bit but we often don't get like our questions answered so it was really cool to be able to ask our audience like what things they were kind of curious about because she was such an open book. Yeah I um I regret not um knowing a few things actually, like her story started from seeing a post in our Uncensored page and one of our members giving her advice on how to become a sugar baby. I know and she's got some funny stories as well I think she will actually write some in the Uncensored group like about some things that have happened so that's exciting as well but I think the I think what's always surprising about these sugar baby situations is that they just really normal people like you wouldn't even know. I don't think I think she said like her workmates know. But like her family doesn't know about it or anything. Like it totally is just almost like her side hustle. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. I think I was even like really surprised about the age range of the sugar daddies. Like, I really just had a perception that It was just this one type of person, I think. So that was definitely a surprise for me. But yes, I found out after that she was actually the one that wrote in to one of our confessions or something and something about a butt plug like shot out. And it was something, it was one of her sugar daddy experiences. And I wish I had have got to ask her to do it, but we have asked her to write that story in uncensored for us. So... Join that and have a good laugh along with us. Love it. And she sent through this little bio, which I will read out and it gives a bit of background around what got her into it. So she said, I'm 21 and a registered nurse, grew up pretty conservative and sex wasn't a topic for anyone outside of marriage. I've always had a high libido from about 13 and I've always been able to get myself off but never with a sexual partner until about a year ago when I was celebrating finishing my degree in Wellington and had my first orgasm from a one night stand. And since then I've been experimenting a lot. and loving my body and letting it have the pleasures it deserves. A lot of sugar daddies need someone to experiment with, so they're ticking off their list while I'm ticking off mine. Obviously, not all sexual, lots are just dates, but this whole arrangement or side hustle I have for myself is about me living my best life, doing what I want in an environment that is safe and making a little cash to pay for the finer things in life that I've wanted but couldn't because I was a student. Get it girl. So good. to the podcast, Abby, actually so excited to have you on here today. So we did ask our audience what they want to know, and they have sent through so many questions. However, none of them were as juicy as I wanted. So I think I'm going to start juicy. And we might do some quickfire ones. what they want to know after. Okay, so I feel like this is how intense, can I go straight up? But no. All right. Just go for it. Do you want to tell us first, do you want to tell us first how you got into it? And we'll start there. Okay, so I've been on the Girls Get Off since the very beginning. And as soon as like the uncensored on Facebook came out, like it was so good. It was the highlight of my day. And I followed every single post Because it was just so good. And so there was one there was this girl asking about she could do it to get some extra money and I was like, oh I'm a follow this one and So I Actually messaged one of the girls that had commented on it giving advice and I was like, hey you're probably getting lots of messages now, but could you give me some advice? This is what I'm wanting to do, I want to see what this is all about." And so she kind of like helped me step through the process and she answered any questions I wanted. I was like, cool, set up a Seeking Arrangements account. And she was like helping me filter through all the good and bad ones. I'd like send through their profile and she'll be like, stay away from this one. This one's good. You definitely know what this one wants. Oh my gosh. Yeah, it was so good. I was pretty stoked. That's like, that's such a cool start to it. Yeah, that's amazing. I did not expect that. I didn't know that. I know. I, um, I love our community. That's just so great. Shout out to that lovely girl. She didn't just give you advice on like, how to set up a profile or like what website to go to. She literally helped you filter through the sugar daddies. That is so great. That's so cool. Cause I was like, yeah, I didn't want to get like creeps. And I was like, this one sounds good, but almost to be true. And she was like, yeah, he's definitely like. over selling it. Yeah. And okay, do you sleep with them? Sorry, just got to or is it each? Um, majority of them. Yes, just because I have a high sex drive. Nice. Obviously like, yeah. Um, obviously like, I'd meet them first, whether that be coffee, drinks, that kind of thing. When we're talking online, I am like, no expectations, no pressures. Just the flow. Stop, we stop. And I don't know, I think I just like the thrill of it to begin with. It was just like really fun. I love it. And that's... Someone has said, is it like an exchange? Like you do this and I'll buy you a car or what does it look like? So there's what's called PPM, price per meet, and those usually is my normal one. So I don't like people where I am. I have like people... as far as Queenstown and Auckland. So when they're in town, it's like, we'll meet up and they'll be like, okay. Cause I have a starting rate, obviously, which is $300 per meet. And then from there, we kind of have a discussion about like, where to how much more or do we just leave it the same? Sometimes like quite often they'll buy me a very expensive wine, which I love. I have arrangements where like when we meet for that whole week they'll just pay any bill. We may not meet every week, when we do meet we're together because, hell. just be like, what are your bills for this week? And give me however many match, if not double it, which is, it was strange at first. I bet. And so generally a sugar daddy is older, right? So there are different types I've come to find. They can range between 30 and like six, kind of like my age I'm into. And so they're not necessarily old, old. They're just people looking for company, whether that be like I have some arrangements that are just watching movies and having coffee and going out for dinner with them. So. The ones that pay my rent, it's not a weekly meetup, it's more like, oh, once a fortnight, once a month kind of thing. And they pay, the week that they come in, they pay for any bill I have that week, whether it be car payments, food bills, power bills, that kind of thing. They'll usually say... here's, I'm going to double it or here's a little extra. So you can go and pamper yourself, which is really nice. And they usually either, yeah, any bills that week they'll cover really. Oh my gosh, that's so cool. And generally, generally sugar daddies are older or not necessarily? So not necessarily. The age range that I'm kinda in at the moment, it can be anywhere from like 30 to 60. 30 is a lot younger than I thought. And they don't necessarily look old. I was surprised as well, like some of them are just young and have their own house and just want that company really. Um, but not necessarily in the space for a relationship, cause they take a lot of work and This was kind of easy. Yeah, definitely. See, I had the understanding that a sugar daddy was quite a bit older. And so all I've been interested to know is what the heck is the difference playing with like an older dick to a younger one? Like, I feel like, don't people want to know that? Like, is it different when they get older? So. I found that when they get older, all the people that I'm seeing, their sex drive skyrockets. And they can keep going. And I'm just like, no, I've got to take a break. Is that code Viagra? Um, and some of them, well, that's what I thought, but they're like, no. But then also do you believe them? I don't know. That's so funny that you even asked. Well, I was curious myself. I was like, I'm dying over here. Like I can't take anymore. You guys are still hard when you leave. Stop. Oh, that's a bloke girl. That's a bloke girl. Surely. And following on from- Yeah, that's so funny that they don't admit it. Following on from your answer around people like paying your bills or you don't necessarily sleep with all the sugar daddies that you interact with, someone has asked how do I find a sugar daddy I don't have to do anything sexual with? I feel like nowadays that's quite hard to come by, just because everything's so sexualised. And there is like that gap. for them wanting that. Like yes, you get those messages online from like people saying, oh, give me $5,000 for nothing sexual. And it's like, really? Obviously it's a scam, but there are those that purely just want the company. You have to really dig for it. Like you have to go through so many profiles and... whatnot. There is, so other seeking arrangements, but a lot of them do expect sexual. And so you do have to filter them and you'll probably like go through so many people saying sorry I'm just, it's platonic, it's not anything more than that. But you also have to like it doesn't allow for that sexual stuff. So like meeting out in public and going and doing stuff definitely helps with like keeping away from that sexual stuff. So that's my advice. There's also an online thing called Lakanto and you can... put like an ad up saying looking for a sugar daddy, strictly platonic or no sexual stuff and you'll probably get more people on that just because it's a wider range of people and I feel like it caters to the older generation that may not know how to use technology. Do you ever worry that you're gonna catch feelings? I think I like go into it, I'm like, this is strictly business, like yes, I have a connection with these people and obviously I'm not gonna sleep with them unless I have a connection or I'm feeling it myself. But I think I wouldn't necessarily say it's feelings, it's more like I become... needy for good dick. Like some of them were just fantastic. I want more, but I can't just say come over for free. And in terms of those, you mentioned, you know, someone from the girls get off uncensored community had helped you kind of weed through or filter through some of these sugar daddies. What are the kinds of things that you're looking for when you are chatting to these people online? So on the Sugar Daddy website, Seeking Arrangements, they have like a whole heap of, um, it has sections about who you are and then what you're looking for. Um, and so I'll just pull up my account now because I'll read it out what mine says and what others say. Um, it says like, they're wanting discretion or... that they're looking for. So they have like a looking for female age 20 to 45 or and it like tells you like their height, their average like body type, ethnicity, education, their relationship. So whether they're in a relationship or whether they're single, you know, they're married but looking. Oh wow. and what they're seeking is like discretion, they've got a flexible schedule, whether it's going to be long term, short term, whether there's some mentorship in that, non-monogamy. What's mentorship? What do you mean? Like, like with business at the same time? I found that a lot of, yeah basically, so they just like want to, I guess, influence. They like the power of influencing decision making. And I guess they want to like give you advice about like whether you're buying a house or what your future plans are. And they're like, they just like to give advice about life really. Well, I can't believe- It's like any type of mentor relationship. I can't believe that there's an actual- how to agree for that, like it doesn't just fall under, you know, the chats you have when you're together. Yeah, no, so you can pick as many what you're seeking as you want. There's like a huge list. And mentorship is just one of those. And I feel like every guy picks mentorship because they like the prospect of influencing whoever the person is that they're with. Wow, I did not realise that before. All I'm thinking of is this guy I used to sleep with and he would just give me all this unsolicited advice. I'll be like, shut up in my head. It's good that it's on the table from the beginning, you know? At least you know what you're getting in for, but that makes sense. And like someone else asked is 46 too old to be the sugar baby? But I feel like you kind of answered that and that there's all different ages. Yeah, definitely. Definitely different ages, different, different ethnicities, different. Honestly, any age, any gender, any anything really. Like I have couples, I have. I actually had a. This is gonna sound weird, but I have friends that like, pass me on to the other friends. Ah, referrals. Yeah, so yeah, referrals basically, yeah. Any of the people you meet wanting exclusivity, is that the word? Um. Honestly, we don't really talk about it. I think they just expect that whatever's between us is kept between us. And obviously that I'm being safe and if I'm with other people, that discretion is absolutely everything. So I'm not telling people personal details about them. that they might tell me. Like if I ran into someone at the shopping center, like I'm not gonna acknowledge them. Like we, especially like for people that are in relationships, we had to like, yeah, it is hard. I have had one situation where I've seen them and they've like given me a wink and I just like blush, let them know that, let anyone know around me. Wow. Because usually I've got that bad memory that I'll be like, oh, hey, and then think after, where do I know them from? So I thought I'd be terrible at this job. Yeah. People every day have my normal job, so I kind of. It's kind of easy for me, really, being able to just like ignore people that I know in public, because. professionalism and all that. So it kind of works out in my little side business too. Nice. So it's just a little side hustle. Do your family and friends know about it? My family do not, just because I come from a very conservative background. But like my flatmates were super excited. Like even one of my friends wanted to sit next to me and just like listen to my conversation today. and all my girlfriends at work are looking forward to seeing me this afternoon to hear all about it. Oh my gosh, you've got cheerleaders on your side. They live vicariously through me. I feel like you're going to need to post some stories to uncensored so we all can. Oh yeah, I can do that. I've had a few stories. Yeah, I think that would be so good. And someone's asked something about being a sugar baby you like and something you don't like. Something I like, I actually really, it's kind of like a little escape from my own world. Like they come to me, it's trying to have like a break from their world with someone that doesn't know them. And it's like also the same for me, which I like, I could be whoever I wanted to be like. And that's the really fun thing about it. Like I can be different people when I can be the... This is gonna sound terrible, but I can like have different sides of myself come out. Like, sorry guys, I'm gonna say this, but I can be the slutty little whore I want to be, or I can be like the queen and dominate and like... depending on the person, it can just be so much fun. That's so cool. That's great. Nothing is weird or to feel sorry about on the Girls Get Off podcast. We're all here for that. That's awesome. Good on you. Yeah, that's so great. And for negative, there are some sleazy guys on the app. They're not too often. But there is like, I have had one instance where a guy messaged me, it was like, hey, do you wanna meet this afternoon? Didn't know anything about this dude. And he was like, I'll give you 50 bucks for a blow job. And I was like, um, no, that's not really what I'm about. And it's like, try to find that. Plus 50 bucks barely like puts some gas in your car. Exactly, like. It's not even worth it, especially if you're not attracted to the guy and you don't feel that connection. It's kind of finding that fine line between prostitution and actually having fun. And with this guy, I was like, no, just leave me the hell alone and blocked him. And I actually told him that this is not how you treat a woman. Yes, I am. meeting with guys but it's like it's on my terms and I do what I'm comfortable with and so it's like making sure I am 100% comfortable I don't do anything I don't want to do and that's like the main thing that makes you feel safe in whatever you're doing. Yeah yeah that makes sense. And someone has said, can you have a boyfriend too? Or does a sugar daddy want to be the only guy? So I personally am not in a relationship, but my flatmates always joke around with their boyfriends and are like, we could so do this, this could pay for our dates and you know, that kind of thing. But it all depends on the relationship and what you're willing to do. in sugar daddying and I reckon it's possible but there's also a huge jealousy aspect. Or more for the sugar daddies, like from their perspective are they okay if you were to have a boyfriend or would they prefer to be like the only guy in your life? So sugar daddies actually, some get off on that, they enjoy knowing that they're being with someone else that's technically taken and that well depending on what kind of arrangement they have, whether it be sexual or just platonic, they actually like the idea of being with someone that's I guess in a relationship so I hope that answers that. And do they want to know much about you personally? Like would they ask if you have kids or something, for instance, or is that just kind of something you just steer away from? So depending on the arrangement, I have some that I'm pretty open about anything and everything, and then there are some that we just don't really talk about much serious stuff, I guess. Some of them love all the juicy details. Some of them even ask for juicy details about my other arrangements. They seem to really get off on that, so that's fun. Do you just like up the price of what other people are paying you in that instance? And you'd be like, oh, I'm getting $1,000 for this or something, and they're like, oh, well, oh. Sometimes, yeah. And someone has asked, a couple of people have asked, like in terms of how much sugar do you actually have to give in terms of sexual stuff, or do you have any limits or boundaries that you put in place with the people that you meet with? So there are some that I go all the way because I just enjoy it so much. Like I said, I have a high sex drive. And so... Like some just want the touchy-feely stuff. Or they just wanna touch you and caress you, not necessarily have sex or anything. They just like, some people just like to admire you, really. They'll just be like cuddling you and just like playing with your hair and having a glass of wine with you and that's it. Whereas some of them, I... Only the ones I really trust and I really get off on. I'll go anal, I'll go normal sex, we'll try new things. I've found quite a few guys that are experimenting with their own butts. And they just want someone else to help. Do negotiations all need to be done beforehand or can you be like getting into sex and then be like, okay, no, anal is going to cost you another like this much if they're heading towards outside, you know, like, do negotiations kind of happen the whole time or is it all arranged? Um, so I usually before I meet someone I'm like, cool, so here's my starting price. I kind of just based it off my first meet with someone. Like my first ever sugar daddy offered me 300 bucks and was like, we'll just have a glass of wine and see where things go. Whereas others, so my, I always start at $300 negotiations per meet and a lot of the time, like they'll always say yay or nay on the app. and be like, oh, okay, like. what's the, what are your terms, what are your boundaries, that kind of thing. So I usually like to lay a foundation prior to meeting because it's awkward talking about money in front of people, especially when you're like, give me 300 bucks. Like that's kind of awkward. I do feel like I usually say just leave the money because most often it's cash. And so I'll just be like, When you come in, just pop your keys, cash and everything down on the table. Um, and then we'll just get into our own little thing. So like, I try to steer away from talking about that kind of thing. Yeah. Has anybody, when we're together, yeah, any negative experiences like, like Joe saying, not paying or. I haven't had anyone not pay me yet. I had someone pay me late but then he also reimbursed me. He gave me a little bit more. So I was pretty stoked with that. I was like cool, I don't necessarily need the money. It's more of a like I get to do the things that I want to do and it's kind of like treat money for me. Love it. Amazing. Okay, that's all my questions answered. You've been so great, Abby. Yeah, thanks so much for coming on. No worries. And I can't wait to hear some of these stories and the girls get off Uncensored page. We're so hanging out for those. I know, and we're so stoked to hear that that's where it all started for you. How cool. Yeah, I've loved it. Amazing. Oh well. Enjoy the rest of your day, Ebby, and we will chat to you another time or see your post in the Facebook group. Amazing. Thank you guys so much for having me. Thank you. 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