Orgasms 101: The Life-Changing Benefits You Didn’t Know About

Forget exercise and doing something fun, if you really want to improve your life you’ve got to ditch the clothes and get down and dirty with your lover. 

Whether that’s your partner, your fave toy or your very own hot little hands, the proof is in the big O’s because orgasming really can have life-changing benefits. 

But don’t just take it from us here at Girls Get Off. Medical professionals all over the world have long discussed the benefits of pleasure, and in the essence of being your pleasure godmother, it would just be rude if we didn’t share the facts, wouldn’t it? 

Here’s everything you need to know about mood-boosting orgasms:

 

First Things First, Though, What is a Female Orgasm? 

Big-O's come in many shapes, sizes and feelings. From your body recreating the big bang to a spicy electric shock racing from the tips of your toes to the top of your head, there is no right way to experience the most pleasurable moment of all. 

There is a certain way to describe it, though. According to Healthline, the female orgasm can be clitoral, vaginal or cervical and is an intense feeling of pleasure that results in 'increased blood flow to your genitals, faster breathing and heart rate, and muscle contractions.' 

It can last anywhere between 13 to 51 seconds, with the average lasting between 10-30 seconds. 

It's also not isolated to your Queen V. Thanks to all those extra sensitive areas around your body called Erogenous zones, your body is a literal wonderland, and certain touches can provoke toe-tingling sensations. 

You can also orgasm through nipple play, or if you're feeling a bit peach-curious, we have it on good authority that anal orgasms are the bee's knees. 

 

How Do You Have an Orgasm? 

There are many ways to have a big O, and they usually involve direct or indirect stimulation of your sexual organs. 

To have a clitoral orgasm, you can go solo and use your fingers to rub the area in a circular, up-and-down or side-to-side motion. You can also use a vibrator like Missy Mini, Wanda or Polly, or if you’re playing with a partner, they can also use a toy, their fingers or perform oral sex. 

For a vaginal orgasm, it’s much the same as a clitoral orgasm with fingers, a penis or sex toy perfect for the job. Our fave way to play with our Queen V is with Elle. She’s a double-ended glass wand with a bulb on either end that will massage your G-spot area, creating toe-tingling sensations. 

If you’re looking to have a cervical big O, you want to combine the two options above. Grab Elle or your partner and try doggy style, going extra deep with the help of a sex pillow like Bumpy Cuddles, and then combine it with clitoral stimulation. 

Anal big O’s are also super fun and come from penetration or stimulation of the anus. You can use Peaches or Elle for this, or your partner could use their fingers, penis or dildo - just make sure you use heaps of lube and stay hygienic.

There are many other ways to big O as well, it all comes down to how you like to play. 

 

Now that we’ve sorted the nitty gritty, what are the three main benefits of having a big O? 

 

1. Health Benefits of Big O’s: 

According to the team at Cleveland Clinic, research has indicated that there are a bunch of health benefits from regular big O-ing and over time, they have been seen to actually improve some conditions, including headaches, heart health, menstrual cramps, as well as sleep and stress. 

The reason they help with sleep and stress is that the act of sex or self-pleasure sees the release of a number of hormones, including dopamine, the ‘feel-good’ hormone which can reduce stress, and oxytocin, the ‘love drug’ which can improve your mood and connection with another person. 

It has also been known to reduce your cortisol levels, a hormone that, when high, is often related to stress. 

And while we’re on the topic of decreasing stress, you can thank big O’s for helping clear up your skin. According to Healthline, stress can cause breakouts, skin ageing, and inflammation conditions meaning to try and prevent these things naturally, you want to lower your stress and what can help lower stress? Big O’s. 

2. Big O’s Can Improve Your Connection With Your Partner 

Sex isn’t the most important part of a relationship, but it isn’t the least important part either, and having regular intimate moments with your partner can be a great way to sustain a healthy and fulfilling relationship. 

That’s what the folks at Very Well Mind say, anyway. According to the publication, regular sex with your partner is often linked to more affection in the relationship - this is even better when one or both of you orgasm. 

‘Beyond individual benefits for you and your partner, regular sex supports a healthy relationship in a number of ways. For instance, the oxytocin released during sex enhances a sense of bonding and improves emotional intimacy,’ they listed in the article. 

‘Sex in a monogamous relationship increases your level of commitment and emotional connection with the other person. Expressing love through sex increases the likelihood of couples staying together. As a result, sex is positively associated with a lower divorce rate.’

So how often should you be having sex with your lover? According to a 2015 study, having sex approximately once a week if you’re over 30 years old can result in relationship satisfaction. If you’re in your 20’s, however, you’ll likely need - or rather want - to have sex a bit more than that. 

If you’re struggling in that aspect of your relationship, experts suggest increasing your communication and being honest with your partner about your feelings, this is because emotional connection can sometimes increase your desire. 

3. Big O’s Are Great for Self-Confidence 

In addition to these mighty fine benefits, big O’s have also been seen to help improve self-confidence. 

Much like lowering your stress due to hormone releases, having a big O can result in the release of a number of hormones that promote self-confidence, this is because most of those hormones released are classed as ‘feel goods’, such as serotonin, which helps regulate your mood and endorphins, which can increase your sense of well being. 

If you’re having sex with your lover, feeling desired, feeling good and making the person you love (or have the hots for), feel good, that can help increase your self-confidence as well. No wonder why Samantha Jones was a weapon of confidence. 

It is worth noting, though, that self-confidence is subjective and can depend on multiple factors, including personal and relationship dynamics.  

It may also come as a surprise to learn that big O’s can also help with brain function. We know, we know, sometimes your brain doesn’t work at all when you’re mid-spicy time, but it turns out that the increased blood flow to the area, can help improve your brain function and memory. 

 

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