3 Life-Changing Books for Better Orgasms (And a Happier Bedroom) 

Looking for real, honest advice on how to have better orgasms? Babess, you've come to the right place! At Girls Get Off, we're all about empowering women to take control of their pleasure - no shame, no awkwardness, just facts, fun, and a whole lot of "hell yes!" If you're ready to level up your bedroom game and finally get what you deserve, put the smut to one side for a sec cause these three books are about to become your new obsession. 

Why You Should Read About Orgasms (Knowledge is Power etc etc) 

Let's be brutally honest - most of us got the sex education equivalent of a soggy sandwich. If your "education" consisted of "don't get pregnant" and maybe a banana demonstration, that's exactly why reading the right book can be a total game-changer - download these to your Kindle, cue these up on Spotify or go old school or get the paper version for science-backed tips, bust those ridiculous myths, and finally understand what makes you tick (solo or with a partner).

Think of it as your pleasure PhD, minus the student loans and lectures. 

Our Top 3 Books for Mind-Blowing Orgasms

1. She Comes First by Ian Kerner (The Clitoral Revolution Starts Here)

This one's perfect for sharing with your partner - seriously, buy two copies or "accidentally" leave it on hubby’s bedside table. While it's an amazing read for you, it's written in a way that helps partners understand exactly what you need and how to deliver it. 

If you've ever wondered why so many women feel like they're missing out in the bedroom, this book is your lightbulb moment wrapped in a big, satisfying "I KNEW IT!" She Comes First is the bold, no-nonsense guide that flips the script on traditional sex advice and puts female pleasure exactly where it belongs - front and bloody centre.

Kerner doesn't just talk about why the clitoris is the real MVP (spoiler - it has 8,000 nerve endings compared to the penis's 4,000). He gives you step-by-step, practical techniques for oral sex and beyond that anyone can follow. 

Why it's a must-read: 

• Prioritises real pleasure over those tired old performance myths 
  
  

• Breaks down female anatomy in a way that's actually interesting (not like those dated textbooks) 
  
  

• Packed with actionable tips you can literally try tonight (yes please) 
  
  

• Perfect for anyone - regardless of gender - who wants to be an absolute legend in bed 
  
  

Why we're obsessed: This book should be required reading for anyone with a tongue and an interest in using it well.

More about Ian Kerner: Ian Kerner's Author Page

2. Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz (The Orgasm Gap Ends Here)

Ready to bust some myths and actually get what you want in bed? Becoming Cliterate is the game-changer for anyone who's tired of the "just lie back and think of England" approach to sex. Dr. Mintz doesn't just expose the cultural and historical reasons behind the orgasm gap - she hands you a sledgehammer to smash through them.

This book is like having your smartest, sassiest friend explain why you haven't been getting off, then giving you a detailed action plan to fix it. You'll find everything from anatomy lessons that don't suck to practical exercises, plus a whole section for partners who want to learn how to truly blow your mind.

What you'll absolutely love: 

• Debunks the biggest misconceptions about female pleasure (goodbye, "vaginal orgasms are for everyone" myth!) 
  
  

• Features science-backed strategies and real-life stories that make you feel seen and validated 
  
  

• Includes tips for better communication, masturbation, and navigating those awkward convos 
  
  

• Empowers you to advocate for your own pleasure - without shame 
  
  

Why we're recommending it: This book is all about giving you the knowledge and confidence to ask for what you want and actually enjoy sex. It's essential reading for women, partners, and anyone who wants to be part of the orgasm equality revolution. Plus, it's written in a fun, relatable style that makes even the science bits feel like chatting with your bestie.

Learn more about Dr. Laurie Mintz: Official Website
Explore her research on the orgasm gap: Orgasm Gap Facts

3. Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (Your Pleasure Blueprint Awaits)

"Am I normal?",  "Why does my desire work the way it does?" Come As You Are is the science-backed, shame-busting answer to all your burning questions. Nagoski unpacks the latest research on women's sexuality with the enthusiasm of someone who genuinely wants you to have amazing sex.

This book shows that there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to pleasure (thank god!). You'll learn how stress, mood, trust, and body image all play a role in your sex life - and most importantly, how to work with your unique "pleasure blueprint" to have better, more consistent orgasms.

Why it's brilliant: 

• Explains why women's sexuality is unique and ever-changing (spoiler - it's not broken, it's just different!) 
  
  

• Smashes the myth of "normal" and helps you embrace your own desires without apology 
  
  

• Offers practical tools for understanding your turn-ons, turn-offs, and everything in between 
  
  

• Written with warmth, humour, and zero judgement (like chatting with your most supportive friend) 
  
  

Why we're obsessed: This book is a total confidence booster and a must-have for anyone who's ever felt "not enough." It's perfect for solo readers, couples, and anyone ready to ditch shame and embrace real, joyful pleasure. Plus, it'll make you feel like the sexual goddess you already are.

Learn more about Emily Nagoski: Emily Nagoski's Author Page

How to Get the Most Out of These Books (Your Action Plan)

• Read with an open mind: There's no such thing as "normal" pleasure, and that's the beauty of it! 
  
  

• Experiment like a scientist: Use what you learn to try new things, solo or with a partner - consider it "research" 
  
  

• Communicate (and advocate for the pleasure you deserve) : Share your favourite tips with your lover (or send them a cheeky highlight with a note!) 
  
  

• Take notes: Jot down what resonates with you - your future self will thank you (P)
  
  

• Start a book club: Get your friends reading too - imagine those convos.. 
  
  

Frequently Asked Questions (Because We Know You're Curious)

What is the orgasm gap? 

The orgasm gap refers to the difference in orgasm frequency between men and women during partnered sex. Research shows women, especially in heterosexual encounters, orgasm way less often than men - largely due to lack of clitoral stimulation and lingering myths about female pleasure. It's basically the sexual equivalent of the gender pay gap, and it's time we closed it

Are these books good for beginners?

YES, each book is written in a friendly, accessible style that's perfect for anyone ready to learn more about their body and pleasure. No PhD in sexology required

Can these books help with communication in the bedroom?

Hell yes! All three books offer practical advice on how to talk about what you want and need, making it easier to connect with your partner. They'll give you the vocabulary and confidence to ask for what you want - and trust us, your partner will appreciate the guidance.

Will reading these books actually improve my sex life?

Knowledge is power, babes! While we can't guarantee instant orgasms (wouldn't that be nice?), these books will definitely give you the tools, confidence, and understanding to have better, more satisfying sexual experiences. 

Girls Get Off's Top Picks for Beginners (Time to Put Theory into Practice)

Ready to put your new knowledge into action? Check out our Beginner Vibrator Guide for our top three beginner-friendly toys that'll help you explore everything you've learned:

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Extra Tips for Your Pleasure Journey

• Start slow: You don't need to try everything at once - pleasure is a marathon, not a sprint 
  
  

• Be patient with yourself: Learning what you like takes time, and that's perfectly normal 
  
  

• Invest in quality: Whether it's books or toys, good things are worth spending a bit more on 
  
  

• Create the right environment: Dim lights, comfy space, no distractions - set yourself up for success 
  
  

Ready to Level Up Your Pleasure Game? 

At Girls Get Off, we believe every woman deserves mind-blowing orgasms - no exceptions, no compromises, no settling for "good enough." Whether you're reading up, trying a new toy, or just getting curious about your own pleasure, we're here for you with real advice, real products, and a community that absolutely gets it.

Want more tips and tricks? Check out our Beginner Vibrator Guide or browse our shop for products designed to help you get off - your way, on your terms, with zero shame. 

No shame. No stress. No settling for mediocre orgasms. You deserve it!