Welcome to our intimate guide designed to elevate your partner's pleasure.
Whether you're looking to deepen your connection or simply add a bit of spice to your routine,
exploring new ways to please your penis owner/male partner can open doors to heightened intimacy and mutual satisfaction.
This guide aims to give you the confidence to try new things and unlock potential pleasure spots for your partner.
Have a conversation in advance about how you’d like to try something new, and get started on the following tips.
If you’re not used to slowing down and teasing for pleasure, a lot of these might be new.....
Forget orgasm being the goal,
And relax into the pleasures of new sensations.
For some of the tips, you might want to incorporate them alongside your current favourite blowjob or handjob moves
Remember, everyone's preferences are different, so open communication is key to discovering what truly delights your partner. Keep checking in to see how the following is received.
Wetter is Better
Before getting started, it should be noted that most penis owners prefer things wet and sloppy when receiving and hand or blowjob. Use saliva or a lubricant such as Juicee to get things slippery.
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Spots to lick on your partner’s penis
Try moving your tongue up and down, in circles and with varying levels of pressure.
- Gooch/perineum
- Balls
- Frenulum
- The tip/knob of the penis
2. The Ultimate Lick
With one hand, hold the erect penis lightly against their belly. Lick slowly all the way from his gooch to the tip of his dick. Maintain eye contact throughout for added spice.
3. Pay attention to the Frenulum
The Frenulum is on the underside of the penis where the knob attaches to the shaft. If you lift up your tongue, it looks the same as the piece of skin that attaches your tongue to your mouth. Note that some uncircumcised penises might not have a frenulum, but many still find this area sensitive and pleasurable.
Use your tongue to make little flicking movements on the frenulum. Try side to side, up and down, and circles. You can also gently massage this area with your finger or thumb. Test varying speeds and see what your partner enjoys
4. Explore the balls
The balls or testicles can be a very sensitive area for some penis owners. For some, they may find them too sensitive for you to suck, whereas others might enjoy them being roughly handled.
It’s best to ask straight away if your partner has any preferences with pressure before diving in so you can get an indication of what’s desired. Something as simple as
‘Do you like your balls played with?’
(if the answer is yes) ‘How hard?’
Explore with your tongue, hands or a vibrator, the back, sides, and even the gap in between the two testes. Experiment with pressure and speed whilst checking in with your partner.
- Lightly suck on one or two balls - how does that feel?
- Cup the balls with your fingers underneath and gently bring your fingers towards you one at a time like dominoes
- Place a vibrator on the sides, back and front of the balls
5. Tips for the tip (of the penis)
The tip of the penis is likened to the clitoris on a vulva. It has the most nerve endings and can therefore be extra pleasurable.
Try the following:
- Hold your mouth and tongue in the same place and use your hand to move the tip of the dick all over your tongue and lips.
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Move your tongue around the tip slowly in a circular motion. Try varying speeds and tongue pressure.
6. General ‘do’s’ for the dick
- Make things as sloppy as possible, let it drip down all over the balls. Use spit, lube, oil, whatever is easiest and slipperiest
- Don’t be afraid of gagging
- Enthusiasm is KEY. When surveyed, the biggest mark of a great blowjob across all males was that the giver did so with enthusiasm. If you don’t feel like giving head, opt for some hand action, smooches, or receiving yourself!
7. DIY Cock ring
Ever wondered what to do when your man is about to cum? In many cases, this tip will add intensity to his orgasm:
- When he’s about to cum, hold (not moving) your thumb and forefinger around the base of his cock. You can either hold and slightly squeeze around his penis, or as you squeeze, pull upwards slightly
Some penis owners can be very sensitive just after they ejaculate - if this is the case for your partner and you have their cock in your mouth as they ejaculate, try keeping your mouth steady and don’t suck on it after they’ve cum.
8. Try these penis massage techniques
The teacup:
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Hold the base of the cock with one hand and gently cup the tip of the penis with your other hand. Make gentle circles around the tip with your cupped hand
The Prayer:
- Using both hands, work from the base to the tip of your partners cock in a prayer action.
The Calippo:
- Hold his penis within both of your hands. Your fingers should be on the upper side of his shaft while your thumbs press gently against the underside of his penis. Pull one hand up, then the other, and repeat. You’ll lightly lift his penis up as you stroke with your index finger and thumb from base to head of his penis.
9. Don’t make these penis play mistakes
- Don’t go in too fast - slow it down and tease the area before you put the cock in your mouth. Discuss what other areas your partner finds pleasurable such as nibbling or licking ears, inner thighs, balls, base of the cock.
- Avoid your teeth coming into contact with the penis! This can be very painful for most penis owners. Don’t worry about not being able to deep throat like a pornstar. Getting the whole shaft in your mouth isn’t essential for maximum pleasure.
- Never forget to check in before you grab the balls. Communication is key for all penis play, but especially in this delicate area.
10. 4 Best Blowjob positions
- Offset 69 position. If his head is 12’oclock, then your feet are at 2 o’clock. Kneel and face his penis as you give him a blowjob. While you’re next to him, give him access to finger you or play with your vulva and clitoris with his hands or a toy
- Directly between his legs
- On your knees. He can either sit on the edge of the bed or stand. In this position, try grabbing his bum, or if standing put one hand through his legs and pull him into you.
- 69 - make sure you’re on top!
11. Variation is KEY
When surveyed, ‘variation’ was noted as one of the most important things when it comes to giving head. Try licking, sucking, rubbing, brushing different areas and spots. Take your time to explore their cock. Experiment with different speeds, teasing, and building momentum.
BONUS: Communication and feedback is key. Take note of your partner’s feedback, noises, facial expressions and pelvic movements to help you understand if they like what you’re doing. Do more or less of whatever it is accordingly.
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THIS ARTICLE WAS WRITTEN BY…..
Hiiii queens!! I’m Lillie Rohan, a Lifestyle and Entertainment journalist. I currently write for established publications such as NZ Herald, Metro.co.uk, The Mirror & of course, Girls Get Off. Along with all things pop culture, I love bringing you helpful info on all things relationship, sex and self pleasure, it’s a vibe! x