How to Become Multi-orgasmic with Shaft Uddin?

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Welcome back to the Girls Get Off podcast. We have a treat for you today. One of our funniest podcasts yet, I think. We have Shaaf including us, joining us. I think, to be honest, I was speechless most of this. episode. It was so funny. How do you describe it Viv? Well, to start with, I actually just wasn't sure. I wasn't sure what to expect. Like I thought, okay, cool, we're going to talk to this interesting guy who's obviously got a really large following. He's had some huge press around his work, especially on Vice. I think they've got like 40 million views on a video of his that he did with them. And so I thought, okay, we'll go on and... talk about some yoni mapping and stuff, but he talks about so much more than that, and also it was really interesting because I haven't heard of someone offering these kind of experiences as a service before, so not only does he do yoni mapping, but he also does these kind of retreats with women. His journey of how he got into it is so funny, and he's got such a dry sense of humor as well. And so real, right? Like you know that you're getting the real shaft when you're talking to him. There's nothing. It's so great. And he talks about his, yeah, so as much as he talks about what he does for his clients, he also shares with us about his personal experiences and his own journey, which I think is obviously really important and has kind of shaped where he is today. But yeah, and he is so funny. Like we were just laughing so much. He's so funny and he called me out a couple of times. And he's very honest. He is so honest. So I hope you enjoy this episode. I've got a little bio here which sort of talks about what Shaft does and who he is. So Shaft is a speaker, coach, somatic, trauma release therapist, transformational entertainer, and viral content creator. It's his mission to find world peace through intimacy. So there's no more blaming and shaming between men and women, but transparent communication. authenticity, shared vulnerability, and co-creation. He quote, and I quote him, we can cure all addiction with human connection. We can overcome depression and anxiety by becoming present and heal loneliness by finding the one ourselves. He's supported countless men and women to overcome sexual trauma and connect back to themselves. He creates safe spaces for people to connect with themselves and others through rituals. retreats and workshops all over the world. His work has reached over 40 million people, working with the BBC, Vice, Times Magazine, The Guardian and many more. He also consults major brands such as Samsung, Mercedes and Disney in creating content. Welcome to the podcast, Shaaf. Thank you so much for joining us. Thanks for having me. Where are you currently actually? I'm currently giving back-to-back Yoni massages at Ibiza Tantra Festival. Oh my gosh, amazing. We're- Yeah, 7.30. The sun's just coming up and just squeezing this in for a long day of supporting women reach multi-orgasmic states. Oh my gosh. Love it. So excited to chat to you today. And on that note, how on earth did you come to be a Yoni massager, a sex therapist, a sex god? Do you call yourself a sex god or is that the course? It's the course, but they call me Shiva here, you know, the divine masculine essence, or a sacred sexual Jedi, or the international press calls me the Yoni whisperer. Yeah. Or a... a tantric sex god. That's what they say. That's what they say. Or Guru. That's a classic one. I knew they had some kind of name for you, but how did you come into this work? Good old fashioned trauma. Just, you know, just hello, just hello, no. Mental breakdowns and, you know, just trying to find the answer and the meaning of life. And then I found salvation through the great universe, women's vaginas. That is not the answer I expected to get. I thought like, oh yeah, always interested in that, blah blah. Can we dive a little bit deeper into that then? Give us an example. Yes you can. I love how original it is. So for me, this is like really normal. Like I'm in such an isolated bubble called the world of Tantra that there's a lot of us going through the same stuff so it's not like, not normal. It's like normal here. So yeah, I basically was... a classic Bangladeshi from a Muslim family upbringing in the UK, working at my dad's Indian restaurant from a very young age, forced to be a doctor loyal, become doctor loyal, get married, get married. The classics, you know, my dad does the call to prayer and my mum's just very, very pushy, but I do love my mum and I love my dad. and well they're great, they're fantastic, I love them. A lot of the work we actually do in Tantra is mommy daddy issues, which is completely related to women's vaginas. So we're gonna come back to that later, but I'm put marking that one. So yeah, I basically was a classic Brit, son of an immigrant, and worked my way out of the poverty background I was in for a lot of hard work and willpower. was gonna get married at the age of 23. This is a quick long story. Okay, I was about to get married at 23 and then my best friend had sex with her and the marriage never happened and it was a shit show. And then my traumas began around relationships. I became jobless and homeless and so on. It's early morning guys. Jobless and homeless and suicidal. I worked my way through it. became a graphic designer, music video director and everything like that. Then at the age of 34 I had my actual breakdown breakdown, after being a successful art director and a graphic designer, music video director. And went to Burning Man, couldn't get drunk anymore. My whole fabric of reality was built around drink, drugs and alcohol and connecting through getting shitfaced because you know, binge Britain, booze Britain, we just get shitfaced whenever we just say hello to someone because we have no... uh... in self-loved confidence because we're stuck in our heads. British politeness is a big thing. And then I had to deal with my emotions and all the things I suppressed all those years and I watched something on the internet after mystical, many sober mystical experiences when I was having sex. I would see energies and see women turn into angels and weird things and I asked the internet what's going on? they said all your showman bodies been activated your third eyes been activated you as i did i sound like i'm becoming a super hero and i think and then eventually i started doing a bunch of stuff and uh... you keep in mind the stuff and one thing stuck out from one man and he said because i love in relationships and i couldn't get anymore because i wasn't drunk anymore and he said you'll find that things you know you find you'll find the one doing and my brain instantly said vaginas. And for some weird reason, whilst working in advertising as an art director at a very high level, working on the biggest brands on the planet, I decided to become a world leading expert on vaginas, leaving my six figure salary behind, going on a... beautiful mission around the world a bit like Doctor Strange to a first movie second movie shit and And then I became a world-leading expert on vaginas and the rest is Digital history because they did a whole film about it with vice outreach 40 million people and my whole story is documented on social media on YouTube At shafted in because it's such a weird thing. I did I thought I want to chart the level of a mentally sick person turning into a fully enlightened guru and then going full circle and going mental again. I'm not mental anymore. That's the story guys, that's the story. That is the best breakdown comeback I've ever heard. Yes, fantastic. All because your fiance slept with your best friend or your best friend slept with your fiance or something? I don't know how it happened, but it happened. Then I caught her in bed with another guy. Well... Yeah, you believe in monogamy, you believe in monogamy. It's like, it destroys you, that sort of stuff. Makes you actually want to kill yourself. Oh my gosh! This is the best ever. Where do we go from here? Okay, all right, so talk me through it then. We've got to where you are now. You've just left your six-figure job. You're like, oh, everyone catch you later. I'm off to learn about vaginas. And then obviously this has kind of worked out for you. So tell us about what did you do to start? You obviously started studying. You were seeing a few vaginas involved here and there. And then now you're a yoni whisperer. Yeah, I mean, I was rich. I had loads of money and time. So if you got a problem, what do you do? Just throw money at it. I also had a brain of a high-level advertising art director. So I see patterns and puzzles and I piece it together and make something so vast and so big, which is women's psychology and biology, and then make it quite digestible so the mass population could understand it. So I used my advertising background. to collect all the data all around the world from all the top gurus and the top professionals in Yoni Diyamin, sexual trauma, sex and sexual somatic therapies and all the things around women's wellness and I told millions of people about how to worship women. So I just utilized my smart brain around advertising and instead of selling fear, so women buy shit things, they feel shit. but a little bit better than that shit again. I just sold love and self-love. Until women had to love themselves. And so what does that look like today? How does that work? Nothing's changed for the last eight years. I've got a method and that method's solid because it's ancient technology from Tantra and it's Yoni de-armoring. So. I basically have these sessions that are two hours long and I get them to write this because all we are is a bag of bones and a bunch of stories but a lot of women allow the stories to define them. So they feel that they're broken in some way or a loved one in a very vulnerable space such as sex said something to them and it shut them down forever. and it's up to me to collect that data in the form of a form that they fill in. I analyze the data and I see a common theme within her story. And then in the session, I basically help her relax her nervous system. And from there, I basically am Sherlock Holmes. I'm looking at her body language every time she mentions something. And it's always a pattern. the same thing being repeated over and over again. And I'm like, ha, that's the source. So let's say, here's an example. I have a very powerful, rich client. She's petrified of being seen in public. She doesn't wanna take up too much space or power, but she's very successful, but she's not functioning at the level that she could potentially be functioning in. So she spends three days with me. in a one-to-one retreat. That's one of my specialities. And when she was young, her first sexual experience was with a very possessive boyfriend. And he used to be very physically abusive, violent, and near the end of a relationship, he actually tried to murder her. So he took her into a forest, and he was about to pull the trigger after raping her several times. and then a child and a family come in and disturb them, and she's able to escape and run free. So her relationship to power is something that's very dominant and very overbearing and violent. So she's petrified of taking. So when I meet a woman, I can see their potential straight away. Like I activate the goddess within someone. So I could see their higher self, basically. I could see their potential. And I could see this very beautiful, powerful woman who's completely disowned her power. When it comes to sexuality, she doesn't bring the power she has in the boardroom into the bedroom. She's just passive and she doesn't like sex. So my job was to get her to understand and own her own sexual power. And the way I did that was to just try and... reframe her understanding around power. So I basically said, you don't like taking, right? She said, no, no. And she told me this story, where her trauma around taking comes from. So she is always passive. She's never in charge in the bedroom. So she doesn't have orgasms. She doesn't know how to have orgasms. She could do it by herself sometimes, but she'd rather not touch herself because the whole thing's related to someone's about to kill her. So it's a lot of And in the end, I just get her to reframe the ideas of what it is to take from someone. So I say, what do you like about a man? And she says, I like their big strong arms. And I said, what do you like to do when you see a pair of big strong arms? And she said, I like to take them and wrap them around me. I was like, taking? So you take them and wrap them around you? I was like, yeah, yeah. I was like, so you do like taking them? And she was like, I do. And then, because I've got big strong arms. So I take her into a session and then I take, I say, okay, so we're not going to be fully naked. We're going to take items of clothing off and wherever there is no clothes, we are going to take from each other for our own pleasure. So here's an 11 minute track. She's also a professional dancer and I'm a dancer as well. So we've got something in common so I could play with that level of connection and intimacy through dance. So it doesn't seem like a big sexual sex thing. So we put on an 11 minute track, I say, here's some coconut oil. And what you're going to do is you're going to take for your pleasure so it feels nice on your skin when you dance with me. So reframing it in a different way. And then we're going to nonverbal deep shamanic state. basically and she's able to take I'm able to feel the pressure on my skin and I know what the energy is behind it she's actually starting to take for her pleasure and I see this goddess energy this power inside of her starting to rise and she's able to take me pin me down and then use me for her pleasure so she's able to break it down little by little and then she reclaims her power back. We spend three more days together doing the Yoni dearmoring, doing the Yoni mapping, doing the shamanic experiences and the initiation, and also talking about her purpose and how it's strongly linked to her sexuality. And a year later, she's a leading podcast lady in her country, and she's dating the highest level men in the field of impact and purpose, and she's a number one coach now in her country. So that's just one example of how a woman's sexuality is deeply linked to her purpose, her passion, and how it affects every aspect of her life. Do you have girls wanting to take it further after that? Do you have all these girls falling in love with you because they've all of a sudden got this attention that they've probably been craving? No, because they're paying for a service. It's very clear on my website sacr They either pay for a full-stage package. The dearmoring is very clear what they're going to get. They're going to get trauma release session where I do trigger point release, a simple method inside of the yoni, relax the nervous system, make them cry, release a lot of the trauma and then they actually have space in their yoni now. I know. It just seems so like- So it's not painful when they have sex. They're able to actually have multiple orgasms. Then the next session is Yoni mapping, showing a woman hands in, like where is a G-sport, how big and how pleasurable it is just to have pleasure on the outside, finding the one o'clock position on the clitoris. So when you stroke that for 15 minutes, you can reach multi-orgasmic states. You are not broken women. Men just don't know how to touch you and you don't know how to touch yourself because no one's educated you. about you, you're only finding the internal extension of the clitoris, which is the G-spot discovered by a man because women couldn't find it herself, I mean seriously what's going on in the world, and then activating the her, because science needs to tell you exactly what's going on, fuck that, and then finding the A-spot and this is where the amrita comes from, using the anubis, you could stimulate that which is a tantric move that I made up. What is Anubis? The Anubis is, I'm going to come to that in a minute, is a way to make any woman squirt. They say 98% of women can squirt. One of the top leading experts actually says it's 100%. And activating a woman's cervix, so when you become multi-orgasmic in the cervix you have a higher percentage chance to have orgasmic births. Yes, that is an option. and activating the Kundalini area which is a tailbone from the inside where the sexual energy is stored so if you have lower back pain sometimes it stores sexual energy and I go inside there and release it through the trigger point release. So it's basically just showing a woman around her own anatomy and I work with a lot of women who have anorgasmia and that's the inability to have an orgasm and I always say if you could breathe you could have an orgasm. and this is how to do it. There you go, you had an orgasm, fish bash brush. We're just gonna restrain your understanding of what an orgasm is. Okay, and take us back to the, so Shaft had his hands up, like if you were gonna do like a punk rocking symbol with your fingers, but you kind of had no thumb. The Anumis. Yeah. So it was like the punk rock without the thumb. It looks like the Egyptian god, right? Oh, it looks like a cat. I'm just imagining doing like. shadow puppets on the walls like okay the anubis the instant sex god squirt move that people pay thousands of pounds for i'm gonna give it to your audience if i like your faces for free okay so here we go can we can we get a photo yeah perfect thank you okay so the anubis so Now, you've got to imagine I'm at the side of a woman's body, her breasts are facing up, so she's not on her back, oh, she's lying on her back. Okay, so her legs are on my right side, her face is on her left side. I'm right-handed, so I do the Anubis with my right hand. So after a long process of awakening her body... I would do a whole process, a process, process and the last thing I do is this and this is how I do it. So I, after consent and everything, she knows she's coming in for the Yoni map in the second session so she knows what she's getting. There's no surprises here. It's very, very clear on my website. So the Anubis. So I pressed down on the pubic. bone just before it so I stretch the skin with my left hand. So this stretches the outer labia and creates a little bit of tightness around the clitoris. The clitoris is poking out a little bit so I have easier access. Now the right hand, the palm, is actually going to be stroking the clitoris. The two fingers that are like the ears of the anubis are going to be stroking the outer labias and the inner labias. This, the inner part of the finger that's connected to my knuckles is going to be connecting and stimulating the G spot. The second section of my fingers, there's three sections that you can see that have lines on it. The second section of my fingers, the middle part, is going to be stimulating the A spot. and the inner knuckles of my finger, the second bit, is going to be stimulating the A-spot and then the tips of my fingers are going to be stimulating the cervix. So a full stimulation from the internal and the external and the outer labia. Now I start off with the whirlwind maneuver. So I'm stimulating all parts of her inside. So I'm feeling, I'm stroking with a lot of coconut oil, the external pleasure points of her yoni, which is the sacred space in the Sanskrit, which is over the outside. And then inside, this is also getting activated now. So there's full activation on the outside, the clitoris, I can feel it, because I can feel everything on the inside of my palm. I can feel the squishy, the squishy. I'm like doing it in my mind. Yeah. Good, good. Can you feel it? And then I'm stimulating the spongy section of the internal extension of the clitoris, which is a G spot with this part of my fingers. And it's a full stimulation and I could feel the cervix. And usually by this time, because we're so connected, we actually start hallucinating. So sober through just a relaxed nervous system. There's no like... Oh my god, I've got to reach an orgasm, something's going on. It's like we've known each other for four hours now, from the first session to the second session. I know all of their traumas and I know exactly what they're like on their body. So they can just chill out with me. And then from there, without any pressure, we could go on an insane adventure. And when the mind starts to relax, all this information starts to come down. Like you start to see colors, everything starts to get heightened. You don't have short, shallow breaths, you start to breathe more so you can feel more. And that's all we're trying to get these beautiful, courageous women to do, is just to feel more without pressure. So in that state of relaxation and a heart that's fully wide open and a yoni that's fully connected to her heart, she feels safe enough to start to feel more. And from there... Oh my gosh, I thought we lost you for a second there. I was like, no, not now! So yeah, that's the Anubis and like I say 98% of women can squirt, there's certain moves you do. So you do the whirlwind and then you start to move up and down, then you start to hear the sound. And then that you know you're on the right track. And then she releases pints and pints of fluid that dries quicker than water. So it's not urine, it doesn't smell of piss. It's something very, very different because after an hour, like you put one bed and you put, let's say you've got three beds and you have three women. One of them pisses herself. One of them spills water on her whole bed, a pint of water. the other one squirts. I could guarantee the one that squirted all that fluid would be gone in an hour. It just evaporates. It's special. Science doesn't even know what it is. The Japanese empress used to drink it, they had special beds where they would make women squirt and drink it. The elixir of life is known in Sanskrit as amrita, the nectar of life. And we drink it to stay young. I'm 172. Oh my goodness. Okay, so we've got Yoni dearmoring. We've just had the Yoni mapping and the Anubis. Who's an Egyptian god? I can't multitask and I'm just like... Well, I don't think you're multitasking. I think you're just lying there, Jo. Yeah, I'm just gonna have to... Are you giving or receiving when you're multitasking? No, I... no. I just mean I can't multi-on. No, I don't have a partner though, so we're just gonna have to multi-task. Oh yeah, can you do this to yourself or not? I feel like me. You could try. I do two at a time. So I do a double yoni massage. A simultaneous yoni massage. There's a whole science behind it around mirror neurons and everything. joint orgasmic states where women, because of mirror neurons, whatever I'm feeling, they're feeling and whatever they're feeling, they're feeling, they end up having simultaneous orgasms and everything because I'm guiding it as well. Is there anything you can't do Shaft? Luckily I get really pushed by a lot of people that book me to take them to the next level because you know women are just hungry for more pleasure. So, like once they're open, women's fires take a long time to start, but when they burn, it burns forever. Whereas men's fires, we just start, explode and then we ejaculate and that's the end. Catch you later, goodnight guys. And this is why I teach how men to become instant sex gods like myself. I don't even wanna go there yet. That's the second part of this. I wanna know what happens on day three of the retreat, because we're only up to day two. What happens on the third day? So, what I was just talking about was the four stage package. So that happens over like a week or something like that. It's like four separate sessions. So the dearmoring, releasing trauma, all the pains gone, all the numbness, a lot of people come to me with, I didn't feel anything down there. Then I go. Did you feel that? And they're like, oh my god, I felt everything. And I'm like, it's because no man has touched you like that. Do you know what conscious touch is? No. People just tweak my tits, grab my vagina, put their fingers inside me a couple of seconds and then put their dick inside of me. I'm like, yeah, that's not conscious touch. So I basically do things men that they just never do. I take my time. When I make love, I block out two hours of my day in my own personal life to work and play and explore my partner or partners, my specialties, reasons. So I basically am very present with every woman I'm with. What's the biggest gift you could give a woman? Your undivided attention and your presence. And I've mastered that. That's why I do multiple women at the same time. like you know you just monopolize on something that you're good at how far can you push presence is what I say how much can you meditate when you're surrounded by super hot women who want to feel all the orgasms so it's great so yes I basically listen to women my job is so fucking easy guys if there's any husbands listening your job is so easy you just gotta listen to them ask them what they like less pressure, more pressure, softer, harder strokes, like faster strokes, like, you know, they're the ones with the vaginas, not you. Women, you're going to have to understand your biology and your body and you need to relay the data back to men because we're so basic. You just have to tell us in yes, no answers, like, or questions, like, we're logical guys. We're not going to be able to understand your non-verbal cues. I mean, I could read energies and I do that, but... Men in normal society, they're just going to go for it and do what they like. And what they like is what their body likes, which is, men love their penises touched, and this is why we touch women's vaginas straight away. Turns out women's energy center isn't there. It's in their hearts. Their breasts is what we need to activate, their body is what we need to activate. When we open up their hearts, their legs open. Tantric science says, if you open up a man's lingam, our... conscious cocks our shaft of light. That's a literal translation of my name is shaft. You can't make this stuff up. You open up his conscious cocks, his lingam and you raise up his energy to the heart. Then his heart will open to you. So there's a whole science behind it. That's ancient, ancient technology that we use. And like science is actually catching up with all of this stuff now. Wow. Okay. This is just a whole other level to what. I feel like other guests have gone into that's amazing. And you mentioned the sex god workshop that you have. And so tell us about, I mean, you kind of already said how it came about, but touch on what are the kind of things that people can expect in terms of outcomes if they come on the sex god course? I think every girl that's gonna be listening to this is signing their husbands up. Yeah, Christmas is coming. Christmas is coming, we start opening the. the throne room in December for one month so you know get them to sign up is a 100% record. So I mentioned the four stage package de-armoring, yoni mapping, understanding a woman's vagina and her body, analyzing data. Then from there the third session is the Shakhtar surrender, where they surrender to an awakened divine masculine and by the fourth session I teach women about their body so they can relay the data back to men so they can make any man tantric. So that's that four stage The free day thing is the deeper stuff, which is so deep and each woman is completely individual, so we're going to have to put a footnote to that. But after doing all of that for eight years, women have said shaft, you need to teach men. So what I teach men is for, I'm actually teaching women's work on male bodies. Like in my community, all women are multi-orgasmic, all women are squirting because it's a method. everyone's got the same buttons but they're a little bit rusty. It's people like me who has to like make them feel safe, press the right buttons and then they squirt orgasm and then they realise oh it wasn't that tough, it's just a lifetime of social conditioning. So what I teach men is actually to understand their own energy system. So let's say I've got, so all men want to be an instant sex god. All men want to fuck open their wives to god. and their girlfriends they think they are a god in bed. No one's ever complained before. Three and a half minutes in bed is a very efficient time for them to reach orgasms. Boom, done, they're good, catch you later, good night. So that's the end of that, men are good. There's nothing wrong with them. Women, why haven't you caught up with us? Why aren't you orgasming? It doesn't matter, I've just jizzed. Good night, I'm off to bed. That's the shit you have to deal with. So it's really sad that it's like that. And then women actually think that there's something wrong with them. And that's when they come to me because the doctors can't help them or anything like that. So I teach men how to slow things down. So if three and a half minutes is your average sex time, which is the average sex time for men, it's actually quicker for the men I've been working with. Guarantee them they could 10x their sex time with me in just one month. So men have a lot of sexual trauma. The reason why they're prematurely ejaculating and have erectile dysfunction is a lot of trauma inside of them and no one's actually listening to why they're like that. I have to go into a quick story. So one client, he ejaculates in 30 seconds. He's... The reason why he ejaculates in 30 seconds is because when he was little he was caught watching porn by his mum. The humiliation and the guilt and the shame that he faced made him never want to get caught masturbating over again. So he became really good at ejaculating in 30 seconds. So he's trained his animal body to do something over and over again so he could get to that point of ejaculation super quick. He doesn't know this by the way. I'm just listening to stories and he doesn't... these things together. He then has a marriage, has two children and the marriage falls apart because he can't last longer than 30 seconds. Because he's trained his body for 40 odd years to do the same thing over and over again. Women's dissatisfied, marriage breaks down, he seeks me because Viagra isn't working, normal talking therapy isn't working, nothing's working and then he Googles me and he finds me and I find out. find out what his story is, because it's all stories. And it's that point when he was caught by his mom washing porn. I'm like, great, now I know the cool reason. So all I gotta do now is change his habits from masturbating for 30 seconds, ejaculating and calming his brain down, talking to his inner child. That's what I gotta do. I gotta get his inner child to not be scared. of being caught and feeling humiliation ever again. So I'm getting him to reparent himself. It's like a whole process guys, it's a whole process. His life is falling apart because of his premature ejaculation. So we go through this whole process and now he's able to last in bed for three hours. Because I got him to do some simple things because I knew his individual story and knew his individual pain and I flipped it around because it's not just about fucking. It's not just about reaching orgasms or ejaculations, it's about someone's sanity. There's so much shit we don't know about ourselves and our bodies and normal talking therapy just doesn't cut it anymore. So this is why conventional therapies like I'm providing is changing people's lives instantly. So when people come to my cause we find out the root causes of all of this stuff. Conventional stuff isn't working for these people. And I'm like their last resort because they see a weird guy doing what I do, but they find it quite entertaining. And then they go down the rabbit hole and then they see the vast amount of stuff I've done and the success I've had. And then they go, okay, there might be something to this. And then there is, and their lives are changed. So three things, tips for your. audience. If you're a husband or a partner listening or you're a woman and you're about to have sex with someone, three things, top three things. Number one, slow things down. If you just slow things down, you're gonna double your time. If you're lasting for three minutes and you slow down that six minutes, you've gained double your time already. So slow things down. If you think you're going fast, slow it down even more. Number one tip. Number two tip is breathe. Instead of doing short, shallow breaths like we do and tense up, what we wanna do is to breathe deeper and into your belly. So instead of going. Ha! Boom, done. What we wanna do is like go. and take it slow, breathe more to feel more. And then the final thing is sound. Men don't even make any sound when they have sex. Why does it mouse? So we want you to actually breathe and movement as well. Instead of like going, bum, men move like this, stiff, women move like this, wavy. This is, I'm a dancer and I dance. Women, if you're left to your own devices and the man stays still, you will gyrate. You will move your hips like a, in a figure of eight in a more rotating thing. Men, as we like to go hard and fast, we go, bam, porn-hard style. Jackhammer. So the bodies, the jackhammer. So your bodies aren't even communicating to each other. Women, you are not stepping up. And this is what I teach women and this is why again I have a success, a 100% success rate with women. You just gotta tell dudes what to do, not in a shitty way. Not by saying, that don't feel right, uh, that's shit, don't do that. And then a little, the little boy inside of a man will shut down and he'll say this, and I can guarantee you, 77,000 women who's listening to your Instagram or whatever will say exactly, I've heard this one comment. So you say to a man, don't do that, do this. Woman says that. And the man says, what do you mean? No one's ever complained before. And that's what they say. And a woman has to reply to that by saying, I'm not like all the other women, I'm different. How about you do it like this? That's all you need to do. We're logical dudes. Our logical mind kicks in and go. hang on, she's not like all the women, all the other women. No one's ever complained before though, like, you know, ever, because no one's ever stepped up and actually said anything. So all you gotta do, and here's the key words, women, is it's a bullshit sandwich, or as we used to say in advertising, a gratitude sandwich. It's like, wow, that is really amazing, but how about you touch me like this? Let's say they're touching your boobs and squishing them, and they're like... doing that and it's like, oh wow, that's amazing. But how about you do it like this? And then you don't say it, because they're not gonna listen. You do it to them. So you grab their tits and go, you do it like this. And they semantically feel it on their body. Remember, blokes are smart, logical guys. They feel it on their body. And then they go, now replay it back on my breast. Now he's got a better understanding. It's a sematic imprint. So he'll do it better. rather than say don't do like that, don't do like that, no no, and he's like talking at him and he's getting, feeling more and more shit, his erection's gone, he's like trying to get out of there, he's like going who's next, like who can I rig now, because she's not like all the other women, she's just complaining, so what we've got to do is actually just like talk to his little boy, talk to his logical mind, because then he'll just figure it out. It's really basic, men and women. Like I figured out women, it's the hardest things you could ever figure out women. I figured it out because I'm just listening to them. And women just want to have fun and they love dancing. I love dancing and having fun. Bring it all together with sexuality. Boom, you've got something amazing. It's called the Instant Sexuality Academy. I love it. I put the session with Shaq. I love how your tone changes with that, with that line. Um, so yeah, Viv's, Viv's. heading on a hot date in a couple of weeks and between this and our better BJs live last night, I can't wait to hear the feedback from you today. Let me give you a little instant sex god tool. So this is what I teach my men. So I basically get them to chill out a bit more, less pressure because there's a lot of pressure to give you women an orgasm as well. By the way, there's a lot of pressure for us to do that. So you know, dance to get... Depends what type of guy he is. Women love dancing. Do guys like dancing in the show? No, don't buy the vip. Oh, I don't know if I should be dancing. Okay, right. Okay, just... Suck his cock, get him hard and then ride it. I don't know. We might not be having sex if I'm dancing. to two people you've ever met in your life. And this is why you interview experts. Okay, so. Give me option two. What's your intention? The regression. Okay. So what I do, I create a container. So you know, let's say I always ask man. women six questions i need to relax my nervous system around the these random women and women off internet all these fans i don't know who these people are but i honestly with my friends anyway so you know i was asked six questions what is your intention for this beautiful evening together what is your do you have any fears about the sexual experience at all uh... do you have any desires what do you like uh... do you have any boundaries you know you know like actually be naked like what do you actually want like you know Boundaries is really important a lot of people don't have any boundaries Then I always have to describe what boundaries actually are. It's like, you know, let's say someone who's a virgin And a super vanilla meet someone who's into hardcore BDSM and they come together and someone says what's your boundaries and the person who's Vanilla says I don't have any boundaries. Someone's gonna have a bit of an issue Walking away from that going I think something bad happened. Whereas the other person's like wow, that was amazing So we're having an imbalance Talking about sexual health is super, super important. You know, when was the last time you got tested? These are the questions I ask. When was the last time you got tested? Have you ever had anything? Have you had unprotected sex since your last test? And then, you know, what will this beautiful experience mean to you? So these are six questions that I asked. And within those six questions, you go deeper than normal people who date for three months. Boom. That's one tip. You know, it's a good date question as well. I don't know if I could, I don't know if I could, I don't know if I could on like a first date. Yeah, it's called changing your habits. You've never done it. It's weird as fuck. Because you're not going to do it. Like, it's like, does he even know what the word intention means? No, not like, not the boundaries one. I mean like asking about STIs and stuff. Wow, so you'd rather have... So I'm trained to deal with vaginas all day, every day. So my conditioning is health and safety first. The highest priority is for me to have a relaxed nervous system with someone. And no, it's like all things, it takes a little bit of practice. And as we're in a tantric community where sexuality isn't suppressed, there's not a lot of... STIs in these sex-positive spaces because we're talking about it. There's no fear guilt and shame around it there's no assumptions and We actually do like Sherlock Holmes things like I don't use your condom. Okay, who did you have sex with last? Is your regular partner? Is he not you know all these things that you need to ask someone else who's just gonna Just not know And isn't it better to know and have a relaxed nervous system than being uncertainty and your nervous system is ever, Oh God, I shouldn't have gone in, maybe I should have asked something, I was just too polite. Now I have to go to the f***ing STI clinic and like get a morning after pill because I just couldn't be so normal in my community and just ask a simple question. Yeah, very true, very true. I think I- Of course it's fucking true, I'm dealing with women all day every day, it's like, guys, step up. I feel, I would have no issue and in fact I'm pretty clear around you know like the sexual health checks or wearing protection and things like that but the um the it's the intention it's the first date quiz what's your intention here you know I reckon that would throw me it's weird um I like I said I only in my personal life outside of work um I only actually sleep with my friends So I'm usually good. But I also have a mantra, which is only sleep with strong, inspiring women. So only sleep with strong, inspiring women that enrich my life. Say for your audience, how about you have this as a baseline for all interactions. I only sleep with strong, inspiring men that enrich my life. Tell me that before I go out drinking next time Viv. Exactly yeah. How about that being your I am statement? How about that being your I am statement rather than I keep on attracting emotionally unavailable men? That's a good one. That's a real good one. I just hook up when I'm drunk at that stage of your trauma. Yeah. Exactly. I do all of this stuff so, but I am no longer an alcoholic, a drug addict or anything. I'm not addicted to anything. I overcame it in one year and eight months. I overcame my depression and suicidal tendencies in lightning speed because of this work. Sexual trauma is the trauma. It affects your mental health and your physical health. I know so many women who have put on weight because they literally can't say no to the attention that they get from men. So they'd rather pile on the pounds so they make themselves look ugly and they subconsciously know that they're doing that but they actually don't know why they're doing it. And it takes someone like myself to work with them to figure out why they can't do it because they simply can't say no to the attention that they're having. So, yeah. Life is a computer game, it's a simulation, and all you gotta do is just work with yes and no, boundaries and consent. I love it, 10 out of 10. Okay, Shaft, where can people, A, is Shaft your real name or is that your Instagram name? Very common in Bangladesh, yeah. Shaft, Udin is like, no, it's a different name. Stop. I used to be a break dancer. So I was like, it's a b-boy shaft. And then I was a unicorn, and unicorns have like horns with a shaft. And then I became a tantric sex guru. And the word lingam, which is your conscious cult, is translated to the shaft of light. Did you know, if there's any men listening, your penis is actually a healing tool. It's a pillar of light, and it can actually heal women with your penis. No one's taught you that. That's why when women sometimes- they cry during sex and people think they've done something wrong. No, you've just hit a certain point in their vagina, the issues are in the tissues, where your healing penis has allowed them to let go of a bit of trauma that they've taken on because they couldn't say no in some way or another. Or say yes. Wow. There you go. There's so much shit I know, guys. It's like, get me on again. Get me up again. I know. We'll do Shaft Take Two. Yeah, we'll do Shaft Take Two. Last question for you Shaft. Where can people find you? Yes, I predominantly live on Instagram. So Shaft Din. I'm literally about to give you your address. Come find me in a bit. No, no, no. Sorry, you're going to have to do this again. I live on Instagram, that's where I share all my stuff. So shaft-udin there. YouTube is where I have all my vlogs and all my tutorials around massage, because my life is just outrageous. I just documented everything. So if you wanna see what my life is like. If you want deeper content, get me on OnlyFans, the shaft show. And if you wanna book a session, oh yes, the shaft show on OnlyFans. I do like Yoni massages and like Lingam massages, I've got a bunch of videos on there. And if you actually want to book a session, find me on sacr I'm going to be in the Far East somewhere, so if you're close to places like, you know, Bali, Koh Phang Yang or anywhere like that, you could actually come and actually have a one-to-one session or a three-day retreat with me. And men, if there's any men listening or any partners that want their men to be a bit more sensitive around their energy, become multi-agasmic, last longer in bed so you can have more pleasure. Send your men to my instant sex god training which is starting in December and you can get all of that on Instagram or sacr That's me. Amazing. Thank you so much for your time Shaft. I hope you have a wonderful day of yawning massages wherever you are. Are you in Ibiza, did you say? I'm in Ibiza for the sun's coming up. It's eight in the morning. And about to do a big show in front of everybody here. I love that for you. Thank you so much again. Very appreciative of your time. This has been very insightful and we'll have to get you back for Shaft to show at number two sometime. I loved it. Thank you so much for having me. It's been a pleasure, joy, best way to start the day. I really, really enjoyed it. Sending you lots of loves and orgasms to all of your audience members. And I want to leave you with one mantra. Repeat after me. I love my life. I love my life. I love my body. I love myself. That's what I learned after spending. 30 grand on my training and eight years down the rabbit hole of Tantra. Those three things. Say that every day and then you will actually love your life, love everybody and love yourself. Love it. Thank you, Shaft. Have a beautiful day. Thanks so much for listening to another episode of the Girls Get Off podcast. You can find us on Instagram at girlsgetoff.com. You can join our Facebook group, Girls Get Off Uncensored. I think we've got more than 20,000 members in there at the moment. 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