Samantha from  Sex and the City once said: "You men have no idea what we're dealing with down there. Teeth placement, and jaw stress, and suction, and gag reflex, and all the while bobbing up and down, moaning and trying to breathe through our noses. Easy? Honey, they don't call it a job for nothing."

Welcome to the blow job. 

From the days of thinking they were absolutely foul to realising the power they hold and, of course, the horror stories, there's no shortage of blowie banter and tips and tricks. 

Including how to give head without your teeth accidentally getting involved. 

So, if you're looking at your boo thang wondering how you're going to blow their mind (no pun intended) with just your hands and mouth, you're both in for a treat. 

Here are Girls Get Off’s top tips for giving good head: 

FOREPLAY

Come again? 

Before you put all that good work in for nothing, let's get the nitty gritty down first. When your lover cums (which they will because you're about to be a BJ professional), where is their spunk going? 

Spit, swallow, face, breasts? Make sure that's clear before they shoot their load somewhere it has no business being - like your freshly washed hair. 

Raise the flag 

The secret to the good gobby isn't in the wrist, mouth or tongue movements (it is, but never let the truth get in the way of a good story); it's all about the peen being fully erect, so don't be shy when it comes to foreplay. G

Set the mood with some music, take a long, steamy shower together, get into your favourite set of lingerie and commence the grind and tease tango, aka they can touch, but they can’t remove any of your clothing…. Or theirs if you want to get them extra hot and riled. 

If you’re short on time physically because you’re both stuck at work or other commitments, send a spicy message or snap to your lover and let them know you can’t wait to ‘take a trip down south’ tonight. Feel free to play it straight as well by telling them you are going to give them the ‘best blowie’ of their life later. 

Whatever your strategy, however you choose to raise the flag, have fun while doing it. 

Tease and tease again 

You know when you're at a really good part of a smutty book, the enemies are about to turn to lovers, the sexual tension is more intense than anything you've ever felt, you're biting your finger and feeling like you can't read quick enough? Imagine if you could make your partner feel like that?

Imagine if we told you that you can. 

Tease your way into the main event by giving them an extra touchy massage as they lay on their back. Kiss down their body, around their hips and inner thighs, or gently run your tongue along the shaft of their penis. 

Create circular motions with your tongue around the top of the penis - the frenulum, which is the underside of the head of the penis, is veryyyyy sensitive, so this one should go down a treat. 

And don't forget about the other top-tier locations to tease. Scrotum's are sensitive lil things, and for some penis owners, they enjoy the sensation of their balls being played with, either with your hands or your mouth. 

The perineum, the piece of skin between the scrotum and anus, is also a fan fave for some people. However, it can also be disliked, so make sure you communicate your plan before touching this area. If you get the go-ahead, licking or stimulating the perineum can result in some toe-tingling sensations for your lover. 

Lube it up, legend

Whether you're using flavourless lube, flavoured lube or saliva, most penis owners will admit, a wetter BJ is better, so don't be afraid to get messy. 

If you're out of lube and your mouth is extra dry, try chewing some gum before going down, eating some juicy fruit or dabbling in a bit of deep-throating to activate your glands. 

Don't be afraid to change it up.

No one likes a two-second DJ, but then again, no one likes hearing the same song on repeat. When giving a head, it's important to take note of your lover's body language and change things accordingly. 

If they like what you're doing, there may be moans, hair grabs, peen twitches or heavy breaths. Keep it up, girl. If they don't like what you're doing, it's not doing what it's meant to, or your jaw feels like it's going to fall off, you'll know, and you can change it up. 

TECHNIQUES

1. Deep throat 

Let's cover this bad boy first. Deep throating isn't for everyone, and that is okay! If it is for you, though, it can be a great technique for great head. 

When you get down to it, your gag reflex will be triggered, so if you want to practice first, by all means, queen, go ahead. You can try with a dildo, banana, an object that allows you to understand where your limit is. 

Then, when you're ready, place one hand on the base of your partner's erect penis and your mouth over the tip of the peen. Slowly lower your mouth down the length of their shaft until you feel it hit the back of your throat. Then slowly slide your mouth up the length of it before repeating. 

2. Sucking 

One glorious BJ technique is suck, suck, sucking. It feels like an exercise for your cheeks and also makes your boo thang scrunch their toes up in delight, what a win. 

There are multiple ways to do this, you can focus on the head, suck as you move your mouth up and down the shaft or a combination of both. 

3. Get handsy

Hands are the most underrated part of a BJ, but trust us when we say: using your hands doesn't make it a "handy." It just means you're working smarter, not harder.

Zoë Ligon, sex educator, says hands are an extension of your mouth: "By using one or two hands, plus a bit of lube, you can essentially create an extension of your mouth," she told Cosmopolitan.

It not only feels like they're getting a deep-throat experience, but you can also control how deep they go. "You can allow your partner to thrust intensely—almost as though they're having sex with your mouth—while being able to control how deep they're actually going."

There are plenty of techniques to use with your hands, including the 'wrist twist,' where you place your mouth on the head of the penis while your hand moves in a clockwise circular motion up and down the shaft.

4. Ball play 

It's a great way to start your BJ journey, but don't forget about them when you're on Gobby Lane. Alternate between licking and sucking your partner's penis and balls as you give a 10/10 blowie, or fondle them with your hands as you focus your attention on the head of their penis. 

5. Booty play

Before venturing down here, make sure you ask for permission first. No one likes a surprise finger up their you know what when they aren't expecting it. 

There are many ways to dabble in booty play while giving head, first, you can lube up your finger and gently caress their perineum and anus. 

To level up from that, when they are relaxed and comfortable, you can slowly insert one finger, pausing to allow their booty to adjust if need be. Or, you can play with our booty plugs, Peaches. 

That's not all either, analingus is also a fun part of giving head and is when you alternate between giving the penis all your mouth’s attention and the anus. Just make sure they've had a shower before doing this, as it's important to stay hygienic when playing with the glorious peach. 

6. 69 and feeling fine 

While it's super fun to focus just on your partner, sometimes they want to join the party as well. In this case, 69 is your best option. 

Simply have them lay on their back with their legs slightly spread. From here, climb on top of your partner, facing their feet. Gently lower yourself until your Queen V lines up with their mouth and their penis lines up with your mouth. 

The rest is all about trying not to lose focus so you can actually give them a blowie. 

7. New sensations 

Add new sensations into your BJ technique by incorporating ice cubes for temperature play. Either place it in your mouth and let it melt slightly before putting their penis in your mouth, or run it across the length of their penis before wrapping your mouth around their length. 

If you want to create a completely unique sensation, try giving a BJ while you have a mint, champagne or a fizzy drink in your mouth. 

8. Toys 

Don't forget to use toys when you're giving head. Turn running your vibrator up and down their shaft as you focus on the head of their penis, have them wear a cock ring to prolong their orgasm, or if they like booty play, they can wear a butt plug for a more intense orgasm. 

However, you choose to play with your partner, remember that consent and communication are the most important parts of any spicy rendezvous.

For more sex tips and tricks, check out our Girls Get Off blog.

THIS ARTICLE WAS WRITTEN BY…..

Hiiii queens!! I’m Lillie Rohan, a Lifestyle and Entertainment journalist. I currently write for established publications such as NZ Herald, Metro.co.uk, The Mirror & of course, Girls Get Off. Along with all things pop culture, I love bringing you helpful info on all things relationship, sex and self pleasure, it’s a vibe! x