Doggie style is iconic. In fact, surveys show that this classic position is consistently in the 3 favourites – for guys, gals and everyone in between. Let’s be honest. It’s hot, primal and gives the behind partner a view that can leave them seeing stars. It allows for deep penetration (um, hell yes) and it can leave at least one of your hands-free to use those fingers elsewhere (wink, wink, nudge, nudge).
But doggie style is also a bit of a workout. The angle, the arch, the thrusts, it’s not just a position, it can be a HIIT class disguised as sex. For those of us with vulvas, warming up is key to ensuring you can go deeper for longer, minimise risk of your arms buckling and helping you reach peak pleasure.
So, here are my 6 must-do moves to make doggie style less “ouch my wrists” and more “oh YES, right there.”
1. Cat-Cow Stretch
Doggie is all about the arch, babe. Too much and your lower back hates you, too little and the angle won’t hit all the right spots (aka the front wall of the vagina). Cat-cow (hands and knees, arch up, then dip down) helps mobilise your spine and hips so you can find that Goldilocks sweet spot. Bonus points if you do it in lingerie and look over your shoulder at your partner - it’s practically foreplay.
2. Glute Bridges
Strong glutes = better thrust absorption and less crunch on your lower back. Plus, bridges are the unsung hero of orgasm-enhancing workouts. How? I’m glad you asked! The glutes and pelvic floor are functionally connected, so when you contract your glutes during a workout or sex, it co-activates pelvic floor muscles. A stronger pelvic floor means stronger, longer and more controlled orgasms.
3. Forearm Plank Holds
Because holding yourself up is half the battle. Planks build endurance in your arms, shoulders and core so you don’t collapse mid-thrust (a mid-thrust collapse is not the climax you’re after).
4. Hip Flexor Stretches
Tight hips are the enemy of deep, delicious penetration. Try a lunge stretch with arms overhead to help those hips feel juicy before you get other body parts juicy. It’s going to help make doggie feel far more comfortable.
5. Kegels (a.k.a Pelvic Floor Squeezes)
Strong pelvic floors give you more control, more sensation and mind-blowing orgasms that will leave you begging for more. If you want to incorporate Kegels into your sexy time, start here’s my recco. Start by doing mini contractions (imagine you’re in an elevator with Chris Hemsworth and you’re trying to hold in a fart – that’s the sensation of a Kegel). Aim for 10-15 quick contractions – that’ll help get some blood flow to the vulva. If you’re grinding on your partner, try adding in a pelvic floor contraction every time your pelvis tilts forward (aka when your tailbone is tucked under). During penetration (whether it’s with a toy, finger or penis), focus on ‘gripping’ around it – extra points if you work in a rhythm so that every time the toy/finger/peen slides in, grip and relax as it glides out.
6. Child’s Pose
Stretch out, relax, and sink your hips back. Not only does it prep your body, but it’s also a perfect “rest stop” position if you need to take a sexy breather mid-session. Why? Slipping into child’s pose can help calm the nervous system and bring you back into your body, in fact research shows this post has a grounding effect on the hips, breath, and parasympathetic activation
There you have it. Doggie can in fact be a girl’s, guy’s or they’s best friend – the trick? Knowing your body, strengthening and stretching and spending time in foreplay to make sure the body is warmed up and lubed up.
