Ever opened your chocolate advent calendar, eaten the tiny square and thought, “Cute… but this is doing nothing for my sex life”?
Same, babe.
If December is usually a blur of work functions, family chaos and falling asleep on the couch at 9pm, a sex toy advent calendar can be a really fun way to put pleasure back on the agenda. One tiny surprise at a time.
What is a sex toy advent calendar, really?
A sex toy advent calendar is just a countdown to orgasms instead of carols. Each “door” or envelope reveals a treat: a mini toy, lube, sexy challenge or all three.
It is not just about being “naughty”. Research on couples shows that doing new, self expanding activities together is linked to higher sexual desire and better relationship satisfaction over time. And vibrators are already a normal part of many bedrooms, with large studies finding that more than half of women have used one and that vibrator users tend to report better arousal, orgasm and overall sexual function.
So no, you are not weird for wanting a Christmas countdown that involves more lube and less Lindt.
Should you buy a calendar or build your own?
Both work, but they suit different vibes.
Pre made calendars:
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Great if you want zero admin.
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You get a mix of toys and accessories with someone else doing the curation.
The trade off is you might not love every item, or some materials might not suit your body.
DIY calendars:
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Perfect if you already know your yes, no and “maybe one day” list.
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You can choose toys that fit your body, your budget and your relationship status.
Slightly more effort, but way less chance of ending up with a jelly dildo that lives in a drawer forever.
If you are picky about quality or already have a favourite brand like Girls Get Off, building your own is usually the winner.
How do you build a sex toy advent calendar that actually gets used?
Think of your calendar like a Christmas grazing platter: a couple of hero pieces, then lots of delicious little sides.
1. Choose your hero toys
Pick 3 to 5 “big nights” where you reveal a main toy. For example:
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One clitoral vibrator or suction toy
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One internal or dual stim vibrator
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One butt friendly toy if anal is in your yes zone
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One partner friendly toy, like a wand or sex pillow
Spread these across weekends, the night you finish work, or whenever you know you will have energy.
2. Add supporting acts
These are the items that make everything smoother, literally and emotionally:
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Water based lubes in different flavours or sensations
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Toy cleaner or wipes
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Storage bags so everything has a home
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Soft bondage pieces like a blindfold or ribbon restraints
They are less “wow” than a new vibrator, but they make the whole month feel more intentional.
3. Fill the gaps with prompts and mini dares
Not every day needs a physical gift. Some days can just be:
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“Mutual masturbation only tonight.”
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“You choose the audio, erotica or porn.”
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“Ten minutes of massage before anything sexual.”
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“Say out loud exactly how you want to be touched.”
This keeps the calendar playful instead of feeling like a 24 day shopping spree.
Callout idea: A small box in the article labelled “Calendar rule” with text like “You are always allowed to swap, skip or move a day. Pleasure, not pressure.”
Which toys work best for a festive countdown?
The best calendars mix comfort zone and stretch zone.
Things you already love, like a soft silicone bullet or a wand that never misses. These are your “guaranteed good night” squares.
Slightly new territory. A smaller butt plug, a sex pillow that changes angles, or a suction toy you have been curious about. These are great on nights when you feel playful and unhurried.
Anything that feels unsafe, painful or emotionally off. No toy is worth overriding your body’s no. Those do not belong in your calendar, no matter how “festive” the packaging looks.
If you want a shortcut, you can build everything around one best female sex toy as your hero, then add smaller items and prompts to support it.
How can you keep it fun and not awkward?
Even toy lovers get shy sometimes. A few tricks:
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Blame the card. If the envelope for Day 9 says “facesitting and a wand”, it is not you being demanding, you are just “following instructions”.
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Talk about it outside the bedroom. Chat through your boundaries and curiosity over coffee so it feels less intense later. Research keeps finding that better sexual communication is linked with higher sexual and relationship satisfaction, so this chat is genuinely worth having.
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Let it be funny. One study found that couples who use positive sexual humour tend to report higher satisfaction in bed and in the relationship overall. If a toy falls off the bed, laugh. You are not filming an audition tape.
What about safety and care?
Silly season is not an excuse to be careless with your bits.
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Go for body safe materials like silicone where possible.
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Use water based lube with silicone toys so they last longer.
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Clean toys after use and let them dry before tucking them back into their little “advent door”.
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Agree on safe words or signals for impact play and anal adventures.
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Remember that cuddling, napping or stopping halfway through still “counts” as using the calendar.
Final thoughts: is a sex toy advent calendar worth the effort?
If you are craving more pleasure, connection or just a reason to prioritise yourself in December, a sex toy advent calendar can be a really fun reset.
You do not have to buy 24 giant toys. You do not have to have earth shattering orgasms every night. You just have to be willing to open one small door at a time and let pleasure, curiosity and a little Girls Get Off energy lead the way.