Rihanna once said ‘Chains and whips excite me’ and you’re about to find out why. There are a multitude of ways you can incorporate a whip into your bedroom rendezvous, from spanking to whipping and all the impact play in between, they’re a sex accessory that brings the omph youve been looking for.
So, how do you get started?
Before you turn on S&M and start whipping your way through the night, lets get one thing straight. We know we sound like a nagger but it really is THAT important that you talk to your partner before engaging in any BDSM, or power play.
Sit down, make a cup of tea, have a wine (but only one or two becuase you still want a clear head), and chat about your boundaries, desires or fantasies you’d like to dabble in and agree on a safe word.
Build up anticipation by going into detail about your fantasies or what you’d like out of the encounter, by doing this you may find it will help you relax and enjoy the moment.
If you are feeling any emotions of discomfort you should voice these with your partner before engaging in any sexual activies. As for nerves, it’s normal to feel a bit nervous before trying something new, but if those emotions turn into anxiety, it could be worth reconsidering whether using a whip at this time is your journey.
When you’re both comfortable, make sure some moisturise is on hand to use after and then it’s go time.
How to use a whip:
While the material of the GGO whip is quite soft, the more pressure you use, the harder it will feel. To know what level of pressure you’d like, have a few practice rounds with your partner first.
As for what areas are the best for whipping, the plumpest part of your booty is a great place to start. You can also aim for directly below your booty behind where your thigh meets your booty, or your lower back thigh.
Hot tip: Do not whip above the booty as it can cause damage to your kidneys. You should also avoid whipping the face, head, neck, fingers, toes and spine area.
Whips can also be used for gentle touches. If you’d like to play this way, have your partner run the whip over one area, or your entire body like they would with a feather. This heightens your sensations without any pain.
If you’d like to make it extra saucy, put on the blindfold, use the restraints, or a combo of all three for the ultimate BDSM experience.
Best positions for whip play:
Over the knee
It’s giving naughty girl vibes and rightly so. To make the most of this position, have your partner sit on a sturdy chair, then stand by the side of their legs and lean your body over their legs, placing your hands on the floor.
From here, your partner can easily whip your booty or upper thigh.
Hot tip: If you want to make this a 10 on the O-metre, have your partner (or yourself) reach between your legs to stimulate your clitoris. You can also do this with a toy if you’d prefer.
Spanking central
A variation of the position above is by having your partner sit on a chair, then instead of leaning your front over their legs, you lay on your back. From here, pull your legs to your chest.
This allows your partner to play with your Queen V and bootilicious booty, as well as playing with the whip.
Hot tip: Add restrains to make things extra spicy.
Bad doggy
Bad girl? Bad doggy? Feels like they should go hand in hand which is exactly why they are. To do this position, simply sit on your hands and knees, with your legs spread hip width apart. From here, you can either lean your front body down so your cheek rests against the ground, or stay on your hands and knees.
Have your partner position themselves behind you and insert their penis or dildo into your Queen V. To incorperate the whip, they can whip the side of your booty, your upper back or - and this is a tease - thrust a few times, pull out, whip and do it all again.
What now?
When you’re all finished playing, it’s important to have a debrief with your partner. What did you like/not like? Would you do it again? Would you change anything? And of course, some after care like cuddles.
THIS ARTICLE WAS WRITTEN BY…..
Hiiii queens!! I’m Lillie Rohan, a Lifestyle and Entertainment journalist. I currently write for established publications such as NZ Herald, Metro.co.uk, The Mirror & of course, Girls Get Off. Along with all things pop culture, I love bringing you helpful info on all things relationship, sex and self pleasure, it’s a vibe! x